leaky heads gaskets, I'm losing it!

New info everyone. Not sure if this is my problem or not. I picked up a good used 360 magnum motor this week. I measured the thickness of the heads at the corners that are machined with the mounting surfaces. The set of heads I am trying to use is .025 thinner than stock heads. Looks like they have been resurfaced before I had them done again. How much can you take off of these things before you start having problems?
My ported X heads have been decked at lest once that I know of. It took around .010 to clean them up.
My La block has been squared and decked, not sure how much was removed.
I just reassembled this engine with a new untouched AirGap intake.
No issues - no leaks
I do know that many builders correct the intake to make them work after decking heads.
Have you ever just half assed assembled the top end without gaskets to inspect the gaps between machined surfaces?