Some people just don't get it!

As I said, it can be read several different ways, it's just my take on it.

It's not a "justification", it just shows there are no more serious issues involved- and she's pretty far down the chain trying to find reasoning for her own dissatisfaction in life.

He travels with her (but he keeps pointing out interesting vehicles), they watch movies together (even though it's a flick he's obviously not all that interested in, but finds something about it to keep him engaged- the cars); don't you think she should show comparable effort?


He's obviously led a full working life- he's ready to retire. This also means he's managed to save up an adequate nest egg, not spending excessively on frivolous or extravagant things that they can't afford. There's obviously priorities in their es that have been addressed and dealt with. Funny that she does not mention any contribution she has made, or if she even works or has worked- sounds like a woman who expects to be "kept" and catered to instead of being an active partner. Just speculation there, but her own statements seem to support it.

Well, they've been to "several counselors" together, but "get nowhere". She claims it's because he "denies his obsession", but counselors are well-versed in that- people with issues deny they have issues, that's why they are issues. More likely she's not liking what the counselors are telling her; so it's on to the next counselor, hoping to find the response she wants to hear. When that fails, her last chance at vindication is writing to Dear Abby.

All this can be is pure conjecture, coming from a one-sided viewpoint, and with far less than complete background information; so it can be nothing more than speculation. And it sounds suspiciously made-up.
And just so you know, I am happily married to a wonderful woman who doesn't tolerate any B.S. from me or herself. And as anyone who has also been on the other side of the fence will attest, we cherish every day of it.
some women are never happy just like some guys are never happy.....Ive met both types. It really doesn't matter if its the husband or wife, when one or the other becomes so obsessed with something in this case a car hobby, that it takes over a relationship to the point of ignoring one or the other, making someone feel less important, than thats a problem.
When you mention "he's led a full working life, he's ready to retire". Maybe she's worked all her married life, maybe she raised the kids than went back to work and maybe she isn't into the car hobby.....I dont see her denying the guy to enjoy what he likes but maybe she is sick and tired of this constant car stuff
Think about it if the tables were turned
My wife and I never had time for these nonsense problems, we were to busy both working, raising the kids, paying tuitions, fixing up our old house