Crime and cost of living in your area.

SE Florida. Been here for 20+ years and love it but is a tough sale for a young family unless you make really good money. Property cost, property taxes and sky rocketing home owners insurance will make Fl less desirable for many. I love the PNW also. I have family up there and enjoy visiting.
OP- Have you considered finding another rental in your area just to get out of what sounds like a really despairing situation/area to give yourself some breathing room to think about long term plans. Whatever you do, best of luck.