Starter clicks using the key, engine starts by jumpering the relay

Thanks. As you can see, electrical work isn't my strong suit. I'm not even sure I was testing it correctly. I touched the positive lead on my meter to the solenoid post on the relay, then the negative lead to a ground, then turned the key to "start" position. Is that right?

I'll have a little time tomorrow to break out the FSM and pull up the wiring diagram. Where should I start when tracing the path? I'm thinking start at the ignition switch, go to the bulkhead, then relay?

One problem I found yesterday that may or may not be related, was the black and grey wire that goes to the ignition control module had pulled out of the bulkhead so the engine would turn over, but not start. Fixed that, car starts but I'm still bypassing the relay.