Why do I keep breaking rocker arms?

The engine sort of chugs at idle, and moves a lot, shaking the whole car. Idle at around 750.
So probably pretty lumpy. I'm just trying to get a feel for maybe how much lift it has. This is why I went with a custom ground cam to my specs. I wanted low lift, because I want none of the problems that come with high lift like coil bind, heavy spring pressure to wear things rapidly or even break things. Do you have a straight edge? You can remove the rocker assembly and put a straight edge across the valve stems and get a good idea how bad off they are. The question then becomes WHY? Were the seats and or ground too far? Did they install hardened exhaust seats too far into the chambers? The list goes on. If you will measure the outside diameter of one of those pushrod cups, I'll measure one that I have and see if we're far apart or not. That just looks strange to me.