Last tidbit of suggestions. I could not find any type of dance club on the beach. Certainly has to be something at Wrightsville Beach.
Anyway, if you come through Raleigh there is the Longbranch. Dancing, live bands. I hear it's real popular.
Traffic during morning and evening rush hour on I-40, I-540, 440 and U.S. 64 East is horrible. Keep in mind the State tree is the Traffic Cone.
