Need some opinions on where to go from here...

You said the oil reeks like fuel. Have you verified that the fuel pump isn’t leaking internally and putting fuel into your oil?
I had this happen on a small block Chevrolet. It was extremely obvious that the diaphragm had ruptured inside the fuel pump. I find it hard to believe that the carburetor could be running so rich that raw fuel would be dumping past the rings and the engine would still be running. You probably have more than one thing going on that’s contributing to the problems you’re seeing.