Divorce

I have not been through this and probably never will. I am one of the few that made a fantastic choice when I got married (20yrs now).

What I can say is - I've seen an unbelievable number of my male friends and relatives get divorced. Better than 2/3's got screwed so bad you want to cry for them. Totally unreasonable settlements, child support, alimony, the ex lies to the kids and the court etc.

Make sure you get an ace for a lawyer. Follow the rest of the advice above - keep busy - be truthful with your kid(s) - view this as another chapter opening in your life - exercise might be a good distraction ! Keep in mind you want what's fair - but don't leave that for her lawyer and the court to decide whats fair, now is the time to take the bull by the horns and wrestle it to the ground. Be strong, but fair. If you dont like your present lawyer, get another one. Search around and find the best you can.

Depending on the state you live in - the laws can be heavily slanted towards the mother, again - get a sharp lawyer. Hide as many assets as you can. Things can get very ugly once lawyers are involved and money starts being waived around. Greed takes over unfortunately.