desperatly need engine help

Start from the beginning by first making sure that the cam is set correctly to the crank (dot to dot) with #1 at TDC end of compression stroke beginning power stroke. If this is correct pull the heads and have the retainers and checked for coil bind with that cam. Check the valve stem to guide clearance on all 16 valves and check each valve to make sure you didn't bend one of them shortly before bending the push rods. The push rods are usually the first to bend if the piston hits the valve, because the cam is set wrong, but all the valve stems need to be checked anyway.
I have my doubts that this problem is going to cheap and dirty, sorry.

Terry

Dear Skycuda, please read my original post. Since the pistons were obviously smacking the valves and therefore bending the push rods, ALL THE VALVES ON BOTH HEADS NEED TO BE CHECKED FOR STRAIGHT AND THE BOZO THAT ORIGINALLY PUT YOUR ENGINE TOGETHER, AND GOT IT WRONG, SHOULD DO THE JOB INCLUDING ANY PARTS FOR "FREE". Each valve must be chucked in a lathe, spun and the valve O.D. and face runout taken and recorded. It may just be my opinion but doing anything short of this check is half assed and potentially could bite you down the road. It also could explain why the idle is crappy as a matter a fact I'd start by getting a compression test done with you witnessing it.

Terry