Your suggestions please, I am jonesing to build.

Change the cam to bleed off the comp.Shoot for 175 and you should bee good.You can also mess with the head gasket but you dont want to get too thick.
I thought I was doing that with longer duration cams, how do I do that? I have put in three different cams now, of course I didn't consult anyone. Any longer duration and I am going to like the street manners even less. Go the other way? An RV cam with high lift and no duration that falls flat on its face at 3500?

Your stroke is around 3.5, a stock 360 stroke is around 3.58. A 360 with zero deck flat tops and those heads and gaskets would have about 9.5:1 compression. So why yours is so high is strange. You might be able to just swap to different heads and problem solved. But you would have to measure what you have first to be sure.
Yeah, that is the odd part for sure, it is .060 bigger bore than a 360, but that shouldn't matter. I wonder if it is due to the location of the ring lands on these pistons?

If you call Cometic Directly they will make a gasket for you up to a .120 gasket. You probably need a .080 Cometic makes gaskets from .026-.120 Their number is
(440) 354-0777
Thank you very much for that information!