tips for aiming headlights

I had my lights "aimed" properly when I had my alignment done. I sure didn't like the results.

Probably because it was done wrong, either because the procedure wasn't done correctly or because the headlamps aren't well enough focused to allow a good aim.

I run silverstars and they are bright

Nope, they're dim (blue internal bulb blocks a lot of light that would otherwise reach the road) and poorly focused (cruddy optics made on worn-out tooling). Not a good choice, despite Sylvania's heavy advertising hype. GE Night Hawks are much better (and less expensive). See here.