Getting a kid to sleep in his own bed any suggestions?

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Hey guys My wife and I are experiencing a bit of a proplem. Our son has decided that he doesn't want any other kids in the house and his meathod of making sure this happens is by sleeping between us at night. He is 13 months old and has always slept in his bassinet until we got his crib moved into our bedroom. Well now he wont even lay down in the crib for 5 minutes he wants to be in bed with us all the time and honestly I am not having it the dogs are enough I don't need to roll over on him and crush the little guy. Any advice we tried the furber thing last night where we let him cry for a bit then went it and showed him we are still there but it only worked until about 1 am where he decided he was going to scream until one of us got him.
 
Keep him up ALL day til yall go to bed at night. He'll be toast.
 
My daughter is having the same problem only hers is 6 years old now...her problem started because her and the boys lived in a 1 bedroom apartment til she was able to get a larger house...good luck with it, she's pulling her hair out trying to change it now..
 
We've never had that problem....she's very independent....folds her own clothes and makes her bed...she's just turned 4.
We did however use a thing called a Lulla-Bub. You place it under the legs (4 ) of the cot, and it shakes gently. Has about 3 or 4 settings, is remote control, and we used it on the "car" setting.....makes them go to sleep.
Here's a link.
http://www.babyhugs.com.au/
 
Think bed instead of wall:-D

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Good luck with it my girl is 4 and still does more than I like.....
 
It's been 15 years since I had to deal with that.
Let him cry, believe it or not it won't scar him for life if he cries himself to sleep. When you give up and bring him to your bed you are just making the problem worse.
In about three to five days he will be sleeping through the night.
 
I know its heartbreaking, but you have to let him cry himself out. The first night is the roughest, but once he realizes that you are not coming to get him, he'll be fine.

By the third night, my son was sleeping by himself and has been for the last 3 years.
 
wow! put a stop to that now. that is too old to be doing that. i can see once in a blue moon if its a rough night or something but not every night at a year old. put the kid in his crib and let him scream and cry all night if ya have to. it won't kill the kid and he will get the message sooner or later. do not baby that lil bugger, he will take advantage of it and take the place over if you keep that up. them lil ***** are way smarter then most give them credit for. your the parents and you run the show not him.

my lil girl will be 2 in a couple weeks. when it was crib time we stuck her in there whether she liked it or not. she was used to to in a couple days. when it was time to get off the bottle we stopped the bottle all day and only gave her sippy cups and only a bottle at night before bed. then over the next couple weeks the bottles stopped all together. when it was time to get rid of the bink we hid it during the day and at first gave it to her at night to sleep. then we cut the tip off of it and she didn't want anything to do with it any more..:)

bottom line is get that sleeping with you habbit over with asap. the older the kid gets the worse it will be to stop.
 
As long as he knows you will break before he does he will keep crying. Might take a couple of nights before it stops but under no circumstances do you let him win. Remember this is his learning years and guess what he's learning right now? Next test will be how much you allow him to get away with at the supermarket. The testing will continue for the rest of yours and his life.
 
reading the post again you say the crib is in your room? why is that? do you have a one bedroom place of is that just for your comfort. if its a one bedroom place then get an air mattress or something and sleep in the living room while he adjusts to the crib. that may be the only way you get your sleep. this way when he is carrying on you can just close the door and cancel out the noise. when one of you get fed up and go get him because he is screaming it just shows him that if he screams you will come give him what he wants. its all mind games man. the parents have to take over and be the boss not the kid. don't give in. i know its hard but its what needs to be done or life is gonna suck as they get older..:)
 
64conv65hard said:
As long as he knows you will break before he does he will keep crying. Might take a couple of nights before it stops but under no circumstances do you let him win. Remember this is his learning years and guess what he's learning right now? Next test will be how much you allow him to get away with at the supermarket. The testing will continue for the rest of yours and his life.
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lol.. isn't that the truth. they are always(from day one) testing you and seeing how far they can push and get away with it..
 
Shut your bed room door :bball::bball:and don't let him in EVER see the inside of your room, and do not let him play in the living room very much... spend time folding clothes or other chores or play with him in his bed room and again Do not let him even see the inside of your bed room.... Let him know you like it in his room and like abodiejoe said, these children are smart and want there way...
I think not ever letting them in our bed room after it was time to move to his own room was the ticket for my wife and I with our boys, if they do nap or fall asleep put him in his crib.. I think the term Cold Turkey works here. and tuff love is good for them,, even at the age of 18 :-D

I have seen parent turn in to friends and forget what the job at hand is :-D

I hope this helps.because I know your love is strong for him. :happy10:
 
I'm with abodyjoe 100% on this one, yes it will be tough for a few nights but it is very important for a child to learn he does not control the household. You will save your family a lot of misery in the long run. Also this is the time for you and your wife talk about being a united front, that is another pitfall, a child playing one parent off the other.
 
Two words, Jack Daniels.
Come to think of it, it still works on them 20 years later.
Wait, it still works on me.....

Seriously, it's just one of them things you got to work through. And it is work.
 
No we moved the crib into his room so that he knows it's his room. We play in his room whenever I'm not to tired from work. My wife is the worst culprit. We hasd him in his room last night and after about 20 minutes he stopped crying and went to sleep. He woke up at 1:30 am and instead of my wife letting him cry she took advantage of my sleepy haze and told me he had been crying for a while so I went and got him hoping to comfort him for a minute of 2 and put him back in the crib but she knew I would pass out with him and sure enough I did.
 
I'm seeing a couple red flags here...just remember, many problems in a family result from what you ALLOW---- as much as what others do.
 
johnparts said:
No we moved the crib into his room so that he knows it's his room. We play in his room whenever I'm not to tired from work. My wife is the worst culprit. We hasd him in his room last night and after about 20 minutes he stopped crying and went to sleep. He woke up at 1:30 am and instead of my wife letting him cry she took advantage of my sleepy haze and told me he had been crying for a while so I went and got him hoping to comfort him for a minute of 2 and put him back in the crib but she knew I would pass out with him and sure enough I did.
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lol. sounds like your on the right track... just stop the wife from getting him when he does that. you will know from his cry if there is something really wrong or if he just wants hi sway...lol.. this your first born?
 
Not my first born but hers. My other girls are 12 and 13 and well lets just say I had more pull with the ex wife then I do with Ms. Independant aka Current wife. I tried to tell her to let him go and you will know when it's time to get him. She insists he couldn't breathe I told her it was because he was concentrating on screaming not breathing.
 
its the same way in my house my wife gets over run by my kids. and they are snotty little brats with her, but they are as good as can be when they are with me. because i have always been firm with them. if they do something wrong they get punished, when they do good they get rewareded. and they have learned that if you want to have fun with dad you have to do what he says. my wife on the other hand will tell them no and then give in and let them do whatever they want when they start to through a fit. and they walk all over her like she is just another kid.

on your problem i think you are on the correct path by putting then little one in his own room. i have never permitted my children to sleep in our bed, (after they were no longer breast feeding) yes there were some nights they sat up screaming all night, but they learned that mom and dad are not coming to give them what they want, and would usually calm down and go to sleep.

I currently have a problem with my wife though, our 2 year old will wake up in the morning and come in our room to wake my wife up for breakfast and my wife will just pick her up and get her to lay down with her. (because my wife does not want to get up yet) I am up and out of the house at 4:00am and never see this except on the weekends, and it is really getting to me. children have there own beds for a reason. my bed is not for them.
 

river rat said:
I know its heartbreaking, but you have to let him cry himself out. The first night is the roughest, but once he realizes that you are not coming to get him, he'll be fine.

By the third night, my son was sleeping by himself and has been for the last 3 years.
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It took my wife going to the hospital after months of that nonsense for me to do just this. Check as often as you need to but do not give in. Worked exactly as river rat said. Good luck, be strong, as much for his sake as yours.
 
johnparts said:
Not my first born but hers. My other girls are 12 and 13 and well lets just say I had more pull with the ex wife then I do with Ms. Independant aka Current wife. I tried to tell her to let him go and you will know when it's time to get him. She insists he couldn't breathe I told her it was because he was concentrating on screaming not breathing.
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lol.. yea thats common with a woman's first born. good luck man. hopefully she will relax some and back off for ya...
 
MtNemoMopar said:
Our kids loved their own room. Never a problem.

But now it's the wife. How do I get Her to sleep elsewhere?
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:toothy10::toothy10::toothy10::toothy10::toothy10::toothy10: Thank you :cheers: I need that , LMAO
 
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