When it rains it - poor's - any ideas????????Help

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    My daughter-in-law is 9 months pregnant. She was heading to the hospital today to induce labor. My son was about to get off work and go there also. This will be their 4th daughter. My son did not make it. He fell off the roof and his wife had to turn around and go get him because no one called ambulance for him. He has lost most of his memory and still does not know who people are. He is in the Clinton, Missouri hospital with his 9 month pregnant wife sleeping in a chair beside him. Their kids are at her grandpa's house as no where else for them to stay right now. Her last day worked was Tuesday. No clue when he will be able to work again. Their daughters 6, 4, 2, and next one is any day or hour. They do not have insurance and he can't claim work comp as he is 1099 worker. I do not know how they will make it for a while. It really hurts as I can't help em much either as I have not worked for the last 5 months and can't go back to work for 3 weeks. I very very seldom ever ask for help as I can stand on my own 2 feet and handle whatever however. But I am desperate and for one of the first times ever, I don't know what to do and can't even help my son and his family. Any ideas of what I can do? Are there any web sites where I could ask for help and maybe get donations for them? I saw one time a while back where some "dude" asked if someone would buy him a beer and got thousands of dollars donated to him by thousands of people - very crazy. But if thousands of crazy people can donate to that cause, surely some good folks somewhere could help this family out a little bit. Like I said I feel desperate and I am swallowing my pride big time by asking others for ideas to help my kids. If anyone has any ideas I would greatly appreciate it. Their names are Hawk and Valarie Duggins and are currently both in the same room at Clinton, Missouri hospital.
     
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    A lot of hospitals have funds through donations that can help in these situations. Ask the one they are at...

    You will not feel good about yourself until u do something. Look around, and see if u have anything to liquidate.... parts to sell? car to sell? get the girls to your house to watch for a bit? Prayers help... There is something, and you'll think of it....

    they need u, and u want to come through... and u will
    Hang in there, buddy
     
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      yep they all for sale now,,, 73 dart sport 340 parts car, 74 dart sport, 68 satellite, 68 road runner, 98 dodge ram 360 2 wheel drive
       
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      thanks
       
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      wow! nice and desirable cars! you'll have cash in no time if they are priced right. are they listed here?
       
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        not yet
         
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        You could also do a go fund me page and post on social media describing the situation as well.
         
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          Not sure, but check with Social Security. They have benefits for permanent disability. I don't know if they have benefits for temporary disability.
           
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          • diymirage

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            In the past we've done benefit auctions for members in need, maybe @Joeychgo could set something like that up?
             
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              Prayers for all involved.
               
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                The hospital should put them in contact with social services, but she'll most likely have to ask for them to do so.
                 
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                  Start a Go fund me page. After you get it started pm me the link and I will donate and pass the link on to my kids and they will spread it out on Facebook. Our prayers are with you and your family. Just a hint when you start it be very specific post pics of kids people won’t donate if they don’t feel connected to the cause. Make it personal like a letter to yourself
                   
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                    doing that right now....thanks... didn't know that existed
                     
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                    I would donate all my mopar stuff for this
                     
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                    The way this usually works is, fellow members who don t have cash on hand to donate, donate parts, which others then bid on, and the beneficiary get the moneys
                    And of course, they can bid on your stuff too
                     
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                      I am getting ready to do that right now, thanks for the advice... also.... I am feeling embarrassed right now.... after getting a couple hours of sleep and realizing I just put a lot of personal shit out in the public... I am a very private person, very.... I don't even have a facebook page(real one with MY name) fake one with my dads name and don't have family or friends on it... just use for the group pages... like i said - I basically never ever ask for help and usually refuse offers of help..... to wake up to the realization - I spewed my guts out last night...embarrassing and humbling
                       
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                      It appears that’s what makes you a great dad. That pie may not taste good but it will go along way.
                       
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                        goto get off here again.... cant stop crying over the fact so many good folks
                         
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                        I might add this, If you want those cars sold, post on Mopar Unlimited, lot of members on it , and many right there in your Mo. Kan area. B bodies sell if priced fair, pretty quick. A bodies not so much.
                        You need a Facebok page set up in YOUR name.

                        No need to feel embarrassed, we all need help sometimes, and someone to tell our troubles to.

                        Like said, discuss the financial matters with the hospital.
                         
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                          Omg that is so horrible. Praying for him and his family. Have you thought about setting up a go fund me page? I'm not sure how it's done but I'm sure someone could help you. I would be willing to donate something.
                           
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                            yes, thank you for recommending go fund me, I didnt know it existed... others have recommended that also... I just got one - Click here to support Both parents in same hospital room. organized by Matthew Duggins ... thanks for all the advice and help... the mopar family is family
                             
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                              RustyRatRod

                              Just want RRR to see this and see if he knows how to set up an auction that you, along with others can put stuff up for sale....
                               
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                                That's always been handled by other members. A gofundme page sounds like a smart idea.
                                 
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                                  I found the GoFund page. Just a small help from me. I had a neighbor that fell out of barn loft, I hope your son gets well. Life will get better.

                                  It never hurts to pray to God Almighty.
                                   
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                                    Got your go fund me will forward to others I know.
                                     
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