I want to start from scratch on front suspension install. Order of operations

3. I have read somewhere that you need to install something, and get the suspension weighted before you adjust and tighten things but I cannot remember what that was. Control arms, bushings, torsion bar, ride height. I cannot remember.

Some tighten control arms with weight on them. I never had. I just make sure they are in the general vicinity of their operation. It can prevent squeaks.
More importantly. NEVER , NEVER adjust torsion bars with weight on them. The thread will most likely strip and the car will come down on you. After adjustment bounce the car at the front bumper to help get the car settled and recheck ride height.
As for order assembly I'll let someone else chip in.
Good Luck sounds like a great build.