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Princess Valiant

Princess Valiant

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my adoptive parents did something that is very very nice but highly un-necessary.

I was with them and we are driving out somewhere, i didn't ask where we were going, just going and next thing I know, we are in the part of town that all the new car dealers are.

we pull into a dodge dealer, I asked ....."what are we doing here"

they had already called the salesman and he was waiting for us ....and in front of me is a brand new Dodge dart SXT in powder blue with a white stripe .....and the salesman right away start showing me the stereo and how comfy the interior is and on and on.

I looked at my mom and asked ....why are you looking at this ....very puzzled.

they told me that think I need a new car now that winter is coming and they are willing to buy me that new dart.

well, I really really appreciate what they are trying to do but I don't know how to say in a nice way that I don't want to move to a new car ...I like my old ones and want to continue just the way I am. right now my old darts are my only transportation, always have been and it has been working out just fine.....they break I fix them and i stay happy ....no big deal.

I keep my old darts tuned and they crank and fire every time ....rain snow sleet or shine (especially the slants) ......I don't see a problem or a need for a new car at all IMO......but I don't want to come off like I am an ingrate and or don't appreciate the thought

how do I say it nicely that I don't want a new car and what would you guys do in this situation
 
this is not the actual one (internet pic) but it looked just like this one but with a white stripe
 

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That's how we roll in this country. Good children are rewarded. Shut up and drive your new Dart. Congrats.
 
RaniDart70 said:
this is not the actual one (internet pic) but it looked just like this one but with a white stripe
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Let them buy it for you, stash it away for when your tuning skills need a break..............Sweet parents...... enjoy them.
 
I've never been in a spot like that. My parents were always helpful as far as a partial buy, but as far as a whole new car.....no. How about putting their offer toward a newer used car (V8 rear drive :D) or even a truck, if you could use one? I understand you not wanting to dismiss their offer, but at the same time, you need to explain what will work out best for you.
 
I would say they truley think you desrve it or the offer wouldn't be there. Good things happen for good reasons. Enjoy your new dart!
 
They are on the outside looking in. nothing wrong with having a car that's good on gas for long trips it'll be a new freedom...besides, getting them to get you a new Challenger might take some sweet talkin :)
 
If they are willing to put you in a brand new car that won't cost you anything accept their wisdom and be grateful. That will take all the stress of being forced to work on the collectible cars as drivers and let you focus on full restorations.
 
well it just seemed like a redundant thing to have another car around ....I already have more than one original darts and a 68 coronet wagon.

they feel bad because my old cars have faded paint and maybe interiors are not so nice ....but they are good runners .....and I have tried to express that is how I LIKE IT. lol

they feel bad because a group of girls from nearby neighborhood I know all have new Hondas and little cars like that ....because they are spoiled rich kids....one just got a new mini cooper......I stand out in that crowd with an original dart but I don't care ....they don't have the torque i have.

parents think I am "settling" with faded paint but I don't mind it at all ...in fact I was getting ready to get my 69 dart and spray bomb it primer grey and paint the fenders flat black so I can pretend im running a Sox and martin car with a slant six under the hood :D
 
that is a hard one. Could you buy a new one for yourself if you wanted? They may feel that you really would like a new car but can't afford one. If you could afford one, you might first off tell them how much you appreciate them thinking about you but your old cars fit your butt better!

It is hard for a lot of people to understand wanting to drive an "old clunker" around! I have a 59 Suburban, my wife's 68 Mustang, and my 69 Barracuda. Someone gave us a 93 Geo Metro for our daughter to drive, she is away at college and we drive it. It gets 40 MPG which is nice but, I would much rather jump in my Barracuda and get 10 even though it needs paint and some bodywork!

you might ask them for $$ to have one of your darts painted and maybe an interior put in it! (maybe some wheels and tires too if needed)
 
Rani if you dont mind me asking are you going to have pay for insurance, registration? those are going to be double or triple, each...
 
As long as you don't need to give up any old cars, why not? Easier starting is one thing, driving is another. While many of us learned to drive in rear wheel cars and can do fine with them in snow, front wheel is really nice (all wheel is better, my Magnum just walks through that white stuff) Plus if you do have a fender bender in a new car the insurance is quicker to shell out $10K where they would want to total one of your old cars.
 
As a parent thought here, they might feel you are much safer in a new car and the likelyhood of breakdowns when you travel in your routes would make them feel better and not worry about you so much!!

Not an answer though as to how to back out nicely. I saw sit down with them and have a good conversation with them on the subject and your thoughts. Never hurts to put it out there!
 
Agreed. They must truly respect and appreciate you. They just want to be sure you are "Good to go" anywhere, anytime. Like is said above.....good on gas, that's a pretty good option for longer trips. You don't have to drive it all the time, but it will be nice to know it's there when you do want too. New cars are not "sacrilege" to the hobby, heck, you can call it your parts getter! Congratulations on having a great pair of people who love you.
 
69B-Cuda said:
that is a hard one. Could you buy a new one for yourself if you wanted? They may feel that you really would like a new car but can't afford one. If you could afford one, you might first off tell them how much you appreciate them thinking about you but your old cars fit your butt better!
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no i cant ...i just graduated college in may and im recovering from student loans and the gouging a university does to people. but i never looked at new cars because i can get around......since i started driving i have always had an old car.


805moparkid said:
Rani if you dont mind me asking are you going to have pay for insurance, registration? those are going to be double or triple, each...
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no they said they would cover it all ....all i need to do is put gas in it ....which makes me feel worse about the whole thing
 
zkx14 said:
As long as you don't need to give up any old cars, why not
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its funny because the salesman asked if i was going to trade in my old car .....they told him its a 68 dart and his interest perked and he asked that ....i laughed.
 
I think you should let them do it. I believe you will show disrespect to them if you refuse. They obviously love you and want to do it. You should let them.
 
gdrill said:
Congratulations on having a great pair of people who love you.
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yea that's amazing ...im not even their biological kid, they have their own kids ....they brought me here from India (they are original Americans) when i was 14 (i knew them before) and i wasn't supposed to stay this long and when i turned 18 ....they talked me into staying ....and now that i graduated college they keep asking if im planning to go anywhere like they don't want me to.

thanks to them i didn't get the life i was destined for ....which would not have been as nice as it is here.......definitely wouldn't have a muscle car there.
 
much different reaction than i was expecting in this thread .....i thought i would have got ideas to avoid it lol

almost feels like when you get a new cat and the old one feels useless and dies ......well if i get a new car what happens to the old ......into the barn to live out useless days to sit and dry rot and be forgotten....

that's almost what it feels like
 
Maybe you could tell them that being independent empowers you to be the best person you can be.That said you could tell them what a generous and loving gesture it is but you take pride in being a strong person who sets goals and accomplishes them. Tell them they could buy cd,s instead of a car and they could put them in a trust for you and if the time came that you were struggling and needed the car it would still be there for you. I am sure they will be proud of your strength and independence. Thats what I look forward to in my daughter.Seeing her as a strong independent person who can do for herself. A parent cannot buy that for their child. Or ,just drive the damn car! lol
 
daredevil said:
Maybe you could tell them that being independent empowers you to be the best person you can be.That said you could tell them what a generous and loving gesture it is but you take pride in being a strong person who sets goals and accomplishes them. Tell them they could buy cd,s instead of a car and they could put them in a trust for you and if the time came that you were struggling and needed the car it would still be there for you. I am sure they will be proud of your strength and independence. Thats what I look forward to in my daughter.Seeing her as a strong independent person who can do for herself. A parent cannot buy that for their child. Or ,just drive the damn car! lol
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I like this, accept the ending!
 
RaniDart70 said:
much different reaction than i was expecting in this thread .....i thought i would have got ideas to avoid it lol

almost feels like when you get a new cat and the old one feels useless and dies ......well if i get a new car what happens to the old ......into the barn to live out useless days to sit and dry rot and be forgotten....

that's almost what it feels like
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Who says you cant still take out the old iron every now and again.
 
RaniDart70 said:
much different reaction than i was expecting in this thread .....i thought i would have got ideas to avoid it lol

almost feels like when you get a new cat and the old one feels useless and dies ......well if i get a new car what happens to the old ......into the barn to live out useless days to sit and dry rot and be forgotten....

that's almost what it feels like
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That will happen only if you let it happen but you are a stronger person than that.
 
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