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straightlinespeed

straightlinespeed

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Just have to love the timing of some people.

So with my wedding coming up in less than 3 weeks. My Fiance's sister's BF decides to propose this past weekend. Why could he not wait at least until after the wedding... They are the type of people that are "hey they are getting all the attention." So now at our wedding they will be oh look at my pretty ring blah blah blah.. They just have to make drama in the family to get the attention back on them..

Sorry, Im just annoyed and needed to vent!
 
Seriously dude??? That's selfish! My sister n law did the same thing 12 years ago when my wife and I got married! My wife sat them down and told them to keep the hype of their new engagement to a minimum during our day! They did good job but still you are right the fact is why didn't they wait!!! They did it the weekend before OUR day! Selfish! We almost didn't go to their wedding but that would have been childish lol!! OH and venting is good! Don't let it bother you and cause tension with your fiancée! If it starts getting stressful just do as we did and have a discussion with them and ask them to please respect your day! And you will respect theirs when it arrives!
 
yep tell them your expecting then after they get knocked up tell them damn we were only kidding lmao
 
Lol, yep already thought about that.

Its just sad that some people have to have the attention at the most innapropriate time. Oh and we found out he has had this ring for 3 months. So he couldn't have waited another couple weeks or done it 3 months ago? I just don't understand some people.
 

Well the **** hit the fan, because someone (not related to the family) posted something the Fiance's FB page about people being rude etc. So her mom called her screaming and yelling blaming us for everything that is going on.

We decided it was best to put our feelings on paper and wrote a email to her mom and sister. It was very honest and to the point about how they have been treating my fiance thru our entire wedding planning process. We asked them both to read the email and take it all in and understand how we both felt. We left it open at the end of the letter that we loved them and want them both at our celebration but that is ultimately up to them.

Minutes later her mom tried calling her again and she refused to answer. She sent it to voicemail and her mom left another accusing, screaming, name calling phone call. How we dont want to be in the family and we are the problem and no one else. So at this point we are not expecting her mom, sister or dad to show up at her wedding.


A couple other people that know the situation can not believe that she is acting like this. They all state that your defensive when your guilty so I hope to hell they feel real bad, but somehow I dont think they do. I sure hope that they pull there head out of there asses and wake up.
 
Seems to me like you owe the apology. I mean just because he proposed to her it's not like they were going to have their wedding on the same day as you. Just my opinion.
 
Sorry to hear of family discord when it should be a happy time. You might consider an apology at this point so you don't have a lifetime of feuding. Something to the effect of "we really are happy you all are getting married too; in hindsight it was petty of us to want the attention all on ourselves."

Also from experience, sending letters to family members doesn't usually have the desired effect. It feels one-sided to the person getting the letter. Better to have a conversation. Good luck.
 
Congratulations!

Forget it. This is your day and your occasion. It will be what you make of it so just enjoy and let it go. Weddings and funerals can bring out the worse in families. But if you move on and not let it bother you, you'll be bigger for it. C'mon, this is your wedding- don't let them bug you! Make it your day.
 
Just my opinion but it seems to me you're the one bringing all the drama into the situation.Ignore them and be happy on this special day. Congratulations.
 
Thank you everyone, I will say this first, there was a lot that I left out of all of this to try to shorten it up for her, but I probably shouldn't had done that or maybe tried to explain better. So I do understand where some of you are coming from about us owing the apology to them.

Yes we have apologized to them and reinforced that we are happy for them and excited. The reason we did everything is writing is because when my fiancé would try to talk to them on the phone about how she was feeling about things they would not listen to her. She was always told how they think she should feel and not actually listen to how she felt. So that is why we decided to put it in writing. Then they have no choice but to listen.

This seemed to have worked with her sister because she responded back last night. So at least half the issue is being resolved. What her sister didn't know is how her mom has been treating us.. She was very surprised to hear that her mom was the one doing the screaming, name calling, etc... Just because my fiancé expressed her feelings. We have told them both that we hope that they can be there to celebrate our day with us and we don't plan on letting anything bother us.
 
Ef em...former in-laws did this sort of stuff. We bought land in MT.....they bought a parcel few over. Moved to AZ....they started to look for a place in our area. I did what I used to do very well and blew up. They stopped talking to me....they lost a ton of $$ when they they sold the land in MT. Last I heard they followed her when she took off to Iowa. Family....so glad I became the outcast.
 
straightlinespeed said:
Just have to love the timing of some people.

So with my wedding coming up in less than 3 weeks. My Fiance's sister's BF decides to propose this past weekend. Why could he not wait at least until after the wedding... They are the type of people that are "hey they are getting all the attention." So now at our wedding they will be oh look at my pretty ring blah blah blah.. They just have to make drama in the family to get the attention back on them..

Sorry, Im just annoyed and needed to vent!
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My best advice, ignore it. People do the strangest things for the strangest reasons within families at times.

Move on, enjoy your better half and let the rest fall where it may.

Life is too short.
 
Family's be crazy man.

Sounds like your future mother in law is going to be a joy to deal with.
I don't see where you guys did anything that that should have provoked her to call screaming and name calling. It's hard to know without all the details, but family is just weird sometimes and you just have to buckle up and hang on for the ride and do the best you can to not let it bother you.

My brother and his wife used to do a lot of crazy ****, and caused a lot of drama. Every time they did something stupid or every time they would take advantage of others, or whatever their drama of the week was. I would get all upset, pissed off, or it would cause me a lot of anxiety, and there was nothing I could do about it, because it was obvious that their behavior was never going to change.
Finally one day I just decided that I wasn't going to get all upset about their behavior anymore. It was causing me to be unhappy, or upset when, like I said there's nothing that I could really do about it. They are who they are, and they will always take advantage of others, I just chose not to let it bother me anymore, I chose to ignore all their drama.
My life is better now.
 
Sorry to hear about all this, but I'm glad things seem to be coming around. I do have a suggestion, but it involves the aforementioned issue of pregnancy. Don't discuss baby names around your fiancé's sister. If you tell her the ones you are favoring, chances are she will use them if she gives birth first. I've seen it happen more than once and it's always a messy situation. Good luck, and congrats on the nuptials.
 
i wish my sisters boyfriend would man up and pop the question, with two kids its about time he made an honest woman out of her
 
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