I need help in the worst way!

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doogievlg

doogievlg

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Tonight I witnessed something that truely traumatized me. My friend and I were getting ready to grill out. He hopped on his bike and I was behind him going to get the food. He lost control and wrecked. I walked over to him and saw the most disturbing thing in my life. Called the police and told them not to bother with a ambulance. He was 22 and my best friend for the last six years. I really don't have anyone to talk to about it. Kind of figured combat vets are the only people who have seen their best friend in that type of condition. I really just need some advice and prayers. Anyone who has any kind of experience like this please pm me.
 
sorry to hear about this.... I'm sorry for your loss. Will be praying for you.
 
If you have a family pastor, it might be good to sit down and have a talk. If you don't, find one through a friend. Even if you have no beliefs in that area it will help. You need someone there live and in person to help with that. May God bless you.
 
I have plenty of friends that were close with him. I spent the evening with them but no one saw it. I close my eyes to sleep and I can see his bike starting to wobble and the wreck and the after math.

Strangest part of it all was that maybe 1 minute after it happened a priest walked up to my friend dressed in all black and gave him his last rights. This is at 7 on a Saturday. He just happened to be walking down the street dressed in black when this happened in the middle of a business park. He walked up to me and offered his help. I was in complete
Shock at the time. I am a Christian and am really looking forward to being with my church family in a few hours even if I have not slept.
 
Wow, sorry to read this......I will say a prayer for you and his family
 
doogievlg said:
I have plenty of friends that were close with him. I spent the evening with them but no one saw it. I close my eyes to sleep and I can see his bike starting to wobble and the wreck and the after math.

Strangest part of it all was that maybe 1 minute after it happened a priest walked up to my friend dressed in all black and gave him his last rights. This is at 7 on a Saturday. He just happened to be walking down the street dressed in black when this happened in the middle of a business park. He walked up to me and offered his help. I was in complete
Shock at the time. I am a Christian and am really looking forward to being with my church family in a few hours even if I have not slept.
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Good. I wasn't trying top pry, but I think if you will sit down with your family pastor and maybe some family too that can help.
 
I appreciated all of you members a lot. It's 4 in the morning here now and it's not like there's many people to talk to at this hour. I'm sure I'll be spending some time with the pastors and elders tomorrow but I'm also spending some time with some of my military relatives. The pastors at my church really have never seen their best friend the way I did.
 
Was your friend a Christian? If so, then think about that part instead. That's the good end of it. The best, actually.
 
No. He was a good kid but he only went to church when he was in boot camp I'm pretty sure.
 
doogievlg said:
No. He was a good kid but he only went to church when he was in boot camp I'm pretty sure.
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Churches are filled with people going straight to hell. Keep that in mind. Just pray for your friend and his family. I will too.
 
Times like this are extremely hard and actually seeing it makes it even worse. You are on the right track by planning on seeing your pastors and elders. Prayers headed your way and prayers for his family too.
 
Don't dwell on it. I know that it's hard.

There was nothing that you could have done. It's a good thing that you weren't on the back of the bike, as you would probably have gone with him. Don't beat yourself up on "having been able to prevent it." There was nothing that you could have done to prevent it. You have to realize and accept that.


I'm sure that it traumatized you. I don't know how to make you feel better.

You can't stop living because someone else has died. You must put this behind you and move on.
 
Sorry for your lost of a friend. Never easy especially this way.
 
Sorry for the loss of your friend

We all have a time stamp and nothing changes that

Some strange things with your friends passing so maybe it was his time.

Priest walks by in odd area? Could it be he was suppose to be there?

You were there to make sure the call was made

It has to be hard to see, but you couldn't have changed it unless he road with you in a car, but then again if it was his time, who knows.

Try and remember the good times you had with your friend and hope that he was going to the right place in afterlife and you will see him at some time in the future.
 
Geez! Sorry to read this. My condolences and prayers.

Venting here might help, but you'd probably feel better talking with a pastor or priest, or someone trained as a grievance councilor, or even a psychologist.

That was a terrible and extremely traumatic experience. Don't try to deal with it on your own, or even with a bunch of amateurs like us.
 
Maybe knowing that God has lifted him up to be with Him may help! Sometimes we don't understand why God call His people home, and maybe we never will, but there is a greater purpose for him, you, and everybody that somehow we need to accept, even though right now it may be hard to do! I am praying for you and all of his friends and family that God will bless all hearts with peace and comfort during this time of reflection! It is through Him that we will find the answers to our questions and prayers, and just know that he is being well cared for, now and forever!! Geof
 
so sorry to hear. prayers sent for all. I know this is very hard to deal with, especially at a young age. like they said, spend all the time you can with a church person, his family and celebrate his life and what he loved in life.
realize it that time to heal many hurts and this is a huge one for all.
 
Wow Doogie, sorry to read this. Thoughts and prayers all around!

I have seen more than my share of these types of things in my lifetime and I will suggest you get some grief counseling. It will help. Time will certainly help in this matter too.

Unfortunately it will be with you forever, although our mind has a wonderful way of compartmentalizing it to help relieve the stress of it. The key is to face it, talk it out and move in a positive direction.
 
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