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moparmat2000

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Ok guys,

A little backround. I have been home the last 2 weeks. Have a severe pinched nerve in my lower spine affect my left leg. Severe pain, and cant feel my toes. I'm on anti inflammatories and painnkillers. I have the ole spinal shot tomorrow.

Ok so we are eating lunch and she says. I love you so very much but i am ready for you to go back to work. She says your driving me nuts w the car stuff. I know you miss being at work and getting your outlet for that stuff there

Then she says i bet other wifes husbands drive em nuts with talk about sports, motorcycles, cars etc. We love y'all we really do but y'alls interests drive us wives nuts.

The good thing is she has no problems with me playing w my cars since it keeps me outta trouble lol. The funny thing is our son loves cars and will prob be similar to me with the mopars

What about you guys. Does your hobby/ obsession with mopars or other stuff drive your better half nuts.
 
Yes. She won't go to a car show with me. Said we built Jake''s 65, I'll probably build a car for his little brother in another 6 years, but says I will not build a car for our little girl.....lol. I don't see why not, but she does get sick of the car stuff. I tell her I could start drinking and hanging out at the bars instead. That's not an option either....lol
 
She puts up with it, but we found some common ground. She likes to fish and I needed a boat for that. lol Boat not withstanding, sometimes you have to show some interest in their interests.
 
I have a buddy that has to go to his cabin at Finn Camp every Wednesday and stay the night so his wife can have her "Jimmy Free Wednesdays"!!! If he can't go for some reason she gets upset!! We all need at least one night away to do our thing, and I try to tell the wife she needs to do that as well! Women have a hard time with that kind of thing for some reason!!
 
GeorgeH said:
She puts up with it, but we found some common ground. She likes to fish and I needed a boat for that. lol Boat not withstanding, sometimes you have to show some interest in their interests.
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I do try show interest, most of her interests seem to revolve around facebook, and conspiracy theories, and lately she is going down the rabbit hole with the bilderbergers, rothschilds, child sex trafficking rings, deep state, pizza gate and that stuff. I'm not saying that its not real or anything, but this stuff is depressing. That and if i got a facebook acct it would be just another mopar outlet for me. I told her i was going to delete all political **** in my inbox, and not read it, and only save and play my daily online trivia game. I told her i'm sure that stuff exists and goes on but getting consumed by that conspiracy stuff online is not healthy especially when you cannot do a damn thing about it.

Yep tinkering w cars keeps me out of the bars, and away from women with loose morals, hey waitaminute that sounds liIe fun why did i get married again lol.
 
I don't need cars to drive my wife crazy. I do it naturally by getting up in the morning.
Not really, she is very supportive of the car thing. She likes them too and would rather have me in the shop where she knows the only trouble I can get it is spending money on car parts.
Over the years, we have always made sure we had separate time and interests and they do not cross. You just can't be smothered by your partner or smother her.
I am down to three days a week of work for my company and she is afraid that when I call it completely that I wont start another car.
She wants me busy and out of her hair. We have the dogs and the grandkids in common and that is a wonderful thing. She is a good wife for and to me!
 
If I work on the cars too much she gets upset because I'm not inside with her. If I hang around inside doing nothing for over an hour she asks "Why don't you go outside and do something instead of just sitting around??????????"
She's a great wife and I have my own separate money to work on and fix the cars so it's not a money issue????? So I've learned to work on the cars outside until she calls me in then I put all my tools up and go in for a while, but after 30 or 40 minutes I'll get back up and say, "Unless there's something you want me to do in the house I'm going back outside for a while". She usually says, "OK".

Go Figure:mad::BangHead::thumbsup:
 
My wife used to hate my car hobby. She griped about every penny I spent on cars and the time I spent in the garage. Then one day about 15 years ago, a few MOPAR gearheads in Topeka started a Mopar club. We became friends with a couple about our age, and his wife was 100% behind his car hobby stuff. She convinced my wife that A. She should be thankful that I can do almost all mechanical work on our cars, and B. she knew a lot of wives who had husbands with much more expensive hobbies, and C. we could always be found in the garage. Ever since then, My wife has been 100% behind my hobby and my car.
 
The OP has an interesting situation and needs to think what it'll be like when they are both retired & together a lot more.
I don't think this is unusual at all and sounds like she tolerates it as long as she doesn't get dragged into it.
 
Wife has NO interest in Mopars, Drag racing, car shows, or any other part of cars. But she doesn't mind how much time or money I spend on them. I didn't get it right the first time. Took me 4 wives to get the right one. My daughter and I went to a salvage auction when see was 14 and she picked out her first vehicle for us to build and have ready when see turned 16. I was a 1983 D-150 short bed slant 6 automatic that was hammered in the front. We fixed it and she drove it through high school and college.
 
I can't sit and watch made up drama on TV like she does, cause it drives me nuts that something that didn't happen and isn't real takes up so much of some peoples lives.
AND while we are on the subject, when ever she goes in the car with me it's an endless stream of bla bla bla bla about everything from the color of someone's house trim color to the damn bushes in their yards.
"OH, look at the porch on that house" after we have already gone by and there are other cars all around doing stupid ****.
Constantly trying to get me to look away from traffic at something.
Can't even listen to music without having to keep turning it down to hear about some plant in someone's yard.

I like having my own stuff to do, and I like driving by myself.:D

Yea, thanks for bringing it up. :icon_fU::D
 
To my Wife unless it's a 55 Chevy she could give a crap..She puts up with me doing it as long as it doesn't cost anything:rolleyes::rolleyes:...YOU PAID HOW MUCH FOR THAT !!?:eek::eek::)
 
My wife does not really care, I spend a couple of hours in the garage almost every night.
She gives me crap when I buy more cars and drag / drive them home.

The last one she said she was going to divorce me, it was a 70 challenger, I came back with I sold my 71 challenger to divorce my first wife, and what do you care, we have separate bank accounts and I pay all the bills.

Also I sold an old vette after I bought the challenger, so I only have the same amount of old cars.....

Her pay back, she is wanting a 4 door Jeep Wrangler, have you guys priced those lately? But she does not want to trade her new car in.
 
cosgig said:
I have a buddy that has to go to his cabin at Finn Camp every Wednesday and stay the night so his wife can have her "Jimmy Free Wednesdays"!!! If he can't go for some reason she gets upset!! We all need at least one night away to do our thing, and I try to tell the wife she needs to do that as well! Women have a hard time with that kind of thing for some reason!!
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Ah. Good ole Jimmy!

Marge has actually told me multiple times "you need a man cave!" I reckon she can't wait till we move up to the farm and I have a shop to spend time in again!
 
this why I enjoy single life.

i guess i do have a selection of mopar guys to "get with" but the problem is that i don't like people touching my stuff and moving stuff around in the shop and using my tools. If I ever got with anyone I would need a his and hers garage because he needs to get his own tools and projects because I have worked alone so many years now that I don't even like people watching me work. I only need help moving very heavy items and reaching stuff on the top shelves, other than that .....I got it handled.

LOL
 
cosgig said:
I have a buddy that has to go to his cabin at Finn Camp every Wednesday and stay the night so his wife can have her "Jimmy Free Wednesdays"!!! If he can't go for some reason she gets upset!! We all need at least one night away to do our thing, and I try to tell the wife she needs to do that as well! Women have a hard time with that kind of thing for some reason!!
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Maybe there's a good reason she gets upset, if you get my drift!
 
cosgig said:
I have a buddy that has to go to his cabin at Finn Camp every Wednesday and stay the night so his wife can have her "Jimmy Free Wednesdays"!!! If he can't go for some reason she gets upset!! We all need at least one night away to do our thing, and I try to tell the wife she needs to do that as well! Women have a hard time with that kind of thing for some reason!!
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If I were your buddy I would give her about 6 other days to be alone! If you want alone time, there is a good chance you shouldn't have gotten married?
 
I'm guessing I am VERY lucky - if it weren't for my girl the 83 Harley would certainly have taken me twice as long - think really cool Xmas presents.., she totally supported me when I bought the Scamp - and hasn't said too much about the fact that my "ready to drive/it's not a project car" has been apart almost as much as it's be together.., and a couple of weeks ago I bought an enclosed trailer for it (that she felt - and said I didn't really need) ..even though she had serious reservations about the entire deal - it is in my back yard :thumbsup: . Never a negative word when parts show up - I get "hey, you got a box today" and I can't tell you how many times she has talked me "off the ledge" when some part of an upgrade or repair isn't going just right... ahh. Dang it -now I'm going to have to go home and be nice to her.. again.. :lol:
 
My wife is very patient, that said I occasionally remind her that the road travels in BOTH directions!
 
Rainy Day Auto said:
this why I enjoy single life.

i guess i do have a selection of mopar guys to "get with" but the problem is that i don't like people touching my stuff and moving stuff around in the shop and using my tools. If I ever got with anyone I would need a his and hers garage because he needs to get his own tools and projects because I have worked alone so many years now that I don't even like people watching me work. I only need help moving very heavy items and reaching stuff on the top shelves, other than that .....I got it handled.

LOL
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I think it is a common misconception that finding someone who shares all of your interests and views is the key to a good relationship. From my experience that usually leads to resentment when they feel their partner is encroaching on their identity or when you grow older and views and interests eventually change it makes them think they have become incompatible.

IMO, having your own identity and interests and more importantly-space, is healthier. My wife and I are opposites in a lot of ways and even after 16 years I still find her interesting and unique. YMMV
 
moparmat2000 said:
Ok guys,

What about you guys. Does your hobby/ obsession with mopars or other stuff drive your better half nuts.
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When we were dating in 2000 I had a 72 Charger and after she graduated college and got her commision in the Navy we had to make some quick decisions about getting married and the inevitable relocations meant by-by to the Charger. She knew I was going to bummed about it and promised to get me another Mopar one day. Christmas 2009 she made good on that promise and I got the Barracuda.

She's not into car stuff but will go to a car show once in a while. I'm not into religion but I go to church with her because I know her faith is important.
 
From the other side of the spectrum, I've been a motorhead my whole life and have vigorously supported my men's automotive interests through the years. If it wasn't for my Cuda and its predecessors, I would never have met most of the men in my life.

After 13 years of sharing a shop with Billy though, I have to agree with Rainy. I'm a very organized person and he is just the opposite. When he can't find a tool on his bench or in the roller cabinet he immediately finds mine ... because it's where it's supposed to be. Worse yet, he rarely returns it and I have to go looking through his piles of crap everywhere when I need it.

Pictures being worth a thousand words ahemmmmmmmmm lol ... I present His and Hers.

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Kindly ignore that 2-pound bag of white powder there. It really IS powder heh hehhhhhhh .....

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Sometimes sharing common interests can interfere with getting the work done.

Matt, I hope you get back on your feet soon darlin! Hang in there and make the best of it.
 
Rainy Day Auto said:
this why I enjoy single life.

i guess i do have a selection of mopar guys to "get with" but the problem is that i don't like people touching my stuff and moving stuff around in the shop and using my tools. If I ever got with anyone I would need a his and hers garage because he needs to get his own tools and projects because I have worked alone so many years now that I don't even like people watching me work. I only need help moving very heavy items and reaching stuff on the top shelves, other than that .....I got it handled.

LOL
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Thats because you havent found your twin soulmate that shares your passion for these old cars. If my wife was into this as much as i am where she and i built them together that would be great.

With the projects end, yes definitely they need their own project, but since people have different tastes, when you are aaked for your help on theirs you should feel flattered because they would be asking because they know your talented. So you help them make mods and stuff their way, and when you need help they can help you make mods and repairs on your project your way.

I prefer sleepers that look restored. Some people like the hot rod look. Others the drag car look. Still others like the road race look. I find that everybody thats into these cars has some thing they are good, and excel at.

Would it matter if they were a total car nut that does all their own work, but into old mustangs , or chevelles?

I dont like people touching my tools either but only because in my household nobody knows how to use them so to that end they need to not touch them, and nobody knows how to put **** back where they got it from. I plan on buying a little plastic box with a carry handle and loading it with harbor freight hammer, screwdrivers, level, tape measure, wrenches and 1/4" drive sockets and ratchet just for around the house use just for that reason.
 
Lustle said:
Wives take away from the beer and car fund.
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Leanna thank you for wishing me well. I came home from the procedure at about 9:30 and went back to bed for awhile. I just woke up a little while ago and need to get up. I hope this all works for me too.

Having a wife and 4 kids does present challenges in the money department (oldest is getting ready to fly the coop this will help in the financial department) however my wife is very understanding, i think she is glad to let me be the financial CEO of our household. Money is going into 401K for our retirement. House has been paid off since i was 42. The bills get payed on time, she has a nice 2012 dodge caravan to drive, when the kids need clothes, shoes, or medical attention the money is always there for that. Cars need repairs or mtx i can do that too.

We keep seperate savings accts and have a joint checking for paying bills or to take the family out to eat. She works part time and it pays for small bills for the kids, or fun stuff they want to do. She goes food shopping w her paycheck in between when i get payed to suppliment our pantry.

Because i am the prime mover financially, when she goes food shopping and i ask for a 12 pack of coronas and limes for my shop fridge, or a 3 pack of rising crust pizzas from Sams club she gets them for me. Sometimes money might be tight and i cross those things off the list, she gets them for me anyways because she says "you work hard to provide for us, you should be able to have your pizza n beer"

Also i do a lot of parts selling to get money in my paypal account, or thru craigslist. I got it all started with $30 to buy a rrally nice black uncracked camaro dash pad from ny salvage yard and resold it for $135, then reinvested in more parts to grow the account. So i use this money to buy parts i need, and nothing comes from my paycheck.

She doesnt enquire about my paypal account or my craigslist cash, because thats not "household money". She will cheerfully say "a box of parts is here for you" knowing its out of my paypal or craigslist play money. She doesnt ask how much something is, she doesnt care because all the other household needs are getting met.

Plus i am now rat packing parts for a 69 notchback i am saving for my son as a future project, she really doesnt mind on that because its something me and my boy will redo together how he wants it to be. Speaking of parts i have a set of cuda signal lamps i need to box up later and get a shipping quote on.
 
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