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Gratis persona
Karli was invited to a friend's house for dinner about an hour or so before I got out of work. Fine, I've got no problems with her going out, have a blast. This was a "couple's" invitation, in which I was invited, but said friend knew I had to work until seven and then I was told I could come down afterwards, which means I'd get there around eight, then have to drive home an hour home after dinner (no thanks).
So, I ask if I'm fending for myself tonight or if the dinner invitation is only if I attend. Is something being made for me to brought home? I get nothing in response.
Once upon a time, in my family and friend's circles, anyway, if you invited someone as a couple to dinner and one of the couple wasn't able to attend, then a plate is home for the person who can't attend. It was called hospitality.
This isn't the first time it's happened. She's been invited to dinner with friends and I come home to eat sandwiches. Again, in my family and friend's circles, if one is unable to attend the invitation, then the host usually buys something as take home for the person unable to attend as a way of saying "we're thinking of you."
Am I unreasonable to expect this? I don't think so, as again, where I come from, it's natural for the host to send something home for the person unable to attend.
I do this at family gatherings all the time. If you're invited and unable to be there, you're not gonna be left out.
Whatever happened to being a gracious guest and eating what's on the menu?
Every year I hold a Memorial Day family get together. The menu is simple: I smoke pork butts. They're served with the traditional cole slaw with some other choices of side dishes and desserts. I provide cold sodas. It's been a general rule of BYOB for years.
This year, for the first time, Karli's parents are invited. I get from her mom, "I don't like pulled pork." If there's a dietary issue, I'll provide something as an alternative, as, to me, that's being a good host. For instance, Karli's grandmother has juvenile diabetes. I'll provide sugar free alternatives, such as water, juice, diet soda, sugar free desserts. Since when is it expected that the host should change his or her plans and provide an alternative if someone doesn't "like" something. Where I come from if you're invited to someone's house for dinner and and you don't "like" something, then you eat it anyways, as being a good guest. Or, barring that, you provide your own alternative and ask the host if he or she is willing to cook it for you or allow you to make if for yourself.
So, I ask if I'm fending for myself tonight or if the dinner invitation is only if I attend. Is something being made for me to brought home? I get nothing in response.
Once upon a time, in my family and friend's circles, anyway, if you invited someone as a couple to dinner and one of the couple wasn't able to attend, then a plate is home for the person who can't attend. It was called hospitality.
This isn't the first time it's happened. She's been invited to dinner with friends and I come home to eat sandwiches. Again, in my family and friend's circles, if one is unable to attend the invitation, then the host usually buys something as take home for the person unable to attend as a way of saying "we're thinking of you."
Am I unreasonable to expect this? I don't think so, as again, where I come from, it's natural for the host to send something home for the person unable to attend.
I do this at family gatherings all the time. If you're invited and unable to be there, you're not gonna be left out.
Whatever happened to being a gracious guest and eating what's on the menu?
Every year I hold a Memorial Day family get together. The menu is simple: I smoke pork butts. They're served with the traditional cole slaw with some other choices of side dishes and desserts. I provide cold sodas. It's been a general rule of BYOB for years.
This year, for the first time, Karli's parents are invited. I get from her mom, "I don't like pulled pork." If there's a dietary issue, I'll provide something as an alternative, as, to me, that's being a good host. For instance, Karli's grandmother has juvenile diabetes. I'll provide sugar free alternatives, such as water, juice, diet soda, sugar free desserts. Since when is it expected that the host should change his or her plans and provide an alternative if someone doesn't "like" something. Where I come from if you're invited to someone's house for dinner and and you don't "like" something, then you eat it anyways, as being a good guest. Or, barring that, you provide your own alternative and ask the host if he or she is willing to cook it for you or allow you to make if for yourself.
