May I make a suggestion regarding Jeff (Alder)? Since his girlfriend has been contacted already (twice?), perhaps he just doesn't want to be "found", or contacted. Please note I'm NOT saying anything negative about him (I've shared PM's with him as well, and found Jeff to be a really nice guy), but as a past Moderator on an Audio forum, twice in my life I've been witness to people being searched for and/or contacted, both times against their wishes, as they were both incarcerated (I won't go into details) and they simply wanted to be "forgotten" and/or left alone.
In my opinion, let it go. Jeff will be back when he is ready.