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gunbunny

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my daughter this past Saturday. If you're not familiar, she is currently serving time in Ohio's Reformatory for Women. I'm not proud of this, but I'm not ashamed either, it's better than the alternative, visiting a grave.
I have never been to a prison before, so this was a new experience for me. It makes me wonder how people smuggle things in. We were searched pretty well.
She looked pretty good, all things considered. She has lost the drugged out look. She also made more sense than she's made in a long time. She confessed to me that her habit had gotten so bad that at one point she was taking 30 pills a day. I'm not sure how she isn't dead already. She also told me that being in prison was probably what was keeping her alive right now. She was an addict and she just couldn't be around other active addicts. She told me that she was attending AA/NA meetings twice a day. The huge thing though is that she acknowledged the fact she has a problem and is an addict.
She said that she misses her freedom, but not the pressure or temptation of the drugs.
When I asked her what her plans were, she said she wasn't sure. So I guess she still has some work to do yet. The one thing that surprised me was when my grand daughter told her she wanted to go back to live with her when she got home, she told her that she wouldn't be able to just yet. That she needed to get some things straighten out before she could be a good mommy again.
I'm hopeful that she really means these things and isn't just blowing smoke up my butt. I've told her she needs to stop confusing my big heart for a door mat. I'm done with the lies and the B/S. Her husband can go pound rock salt in his ***. He's a drunk and I have no use for him at all. I told him his wife is wearing state issued shoes and they hurt her feet, all he had to say was "at least she aint barefoot". He has money for budlight and marlboro's but not $28.00 to buy his wife a pair of shoes. I dealt with it, but it just pisses me off he's not willing to help her. so much for "for better or for worse".
With any luck the two of them will part ways and she'll leave him. I've been hoping he'd move some woman in and make that easy. But so far he hasn't.
Well I've vented enough, back to our regularly scheduled programing!
 
wow, that must be tough for you, her daughter and the family.
I hope it works out the best for her being away from the bad habit.

It takes a big man to post something like this. I'm sure deep inside it must hurt.
I'm sure alot of us would just like to scream sometimes with life bumps on the road and feel that nobody else have problems and nowhere to go.

We all need help or support someday or another.

take care man
 

Sucks hearing about another addict in clermont but it seems like your both on the right path. I told you before how my great uncle still
Supports my cousins habbits through his ignorance. I wish he would take the same approach as you and stop giving them money every time they said they were going clean.

It's great that she is attending those programs but it's sad that our state wolnt fund a more substance specific program.

I hope for the best for your daughter. It's going to take one addict at a time getting clean to improve our town.
 
I hope this has a happy ending. Sounds like it might be heading in a better direction.
Good luck for your family.
 
addictions...they can be beat...but the addict MUST take the first step.
All you can do is be there for her...to a point. There is a difference between "lending a helping hand" & being used.
Really hope that your daughters apparent change of direction is not a ploy of some sorts...
 
addictions...they can be beat...but the addict MUST take the first step.
All you can do is be there for her...to a point. There is a difference between "lending a helping hand" & being used.
Really hope that your daughters apparent change of direction is not a ploy of some sorts...

^^^^^^^^^^^^ What he said. Look into a philosophy called "Tough Love " . God Bless Gunbunny...I wish You and your Daughter well.
 
A positive start. The more reality hits,the better it gets with family support.
 
Hey gunbunny, praying for you and your daughter. I wish you all the best. Problems can happen in the best of families, hang in there.
 
I too am praying for all involved! I hope That your daughter really takes stock of what she has in you and Cheyenne, and makes her turnaround to be the best person she can be! I learned a long time ago that the only way to beat an addiction is to make the addictive property your enemy, if its in the room, you leave! If its being offered, you leave...she needs to get that feeling that wherever her addiction lies, she won't be there!!

May God giver her strength to put her life, and Cheyennes, at the top of the list, and erase all of her past indescretions for good!! Give Cheyenne a big hug from us, Geof and Nella!!
 
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