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I know I can get the answer to this question at my local post office, but I thought I’d ask on here first.
If you send something certified, with return receipt, do you need to put a return address on it?
My wife is the administrator of her mothers estate and needs to send a certified check to her (my wife’s) brother. We want nothing to do with him, nor do we want him to know where we live. We just need to fulfill the obligation.
He disappeared when his mother was dying last September. He has resurfaced in text messages. He smells money.
 
See if the post office can isolate the information, or maybe use something like a "general delivery." Otherwise, you will likely have to have a lawyer or someone send it to isolate it.

Can you have your bank send a certified check or "bank draft?"
 
Get a PO box at the local post office, when the return receipt arrives cancel the box!!
 
...or get a temporary PO box.

The PO frowns on anything over the counter without a return address.

I frequently send "certificates of mailing" letters, and they even force me to fill out the portion of the stub that's "for my own records".
 
Invent a return address for the envelope. The only thing that will need your actual address is the back of the green return receipt card so it comes back to you and proves he received the contents.
He will not see the back of the card at all, only the mail carrier.

A lot of people refuse certified mail regardless of who sent it. It's a 50/50 chance.

The probate court will only care that she made the effort to pay him, and the signed card will be that proof.
 
Send it to me...Ill re-address it from Tustin, CA. That'll throw him off the scent. What bank is it drawn out of, would the branch give it away? Or you could send it in bitcoin.....untraceable...sort of. :rolleyes:
 
pishta said:
Send it to me...Ill re-address it from Tustin, CA. That'll throw him off the scent. What bank is it drawn out of, would the branch give it away? Or you could send it in bitcoin.....untraceable...sort of. :rolleyes:
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Or send it to me, and I'll spend it on mopars
 
SpeedThrills said:
I know I can get the answer to this question at my local post office, but I thought I’d ask on here first.
If you send something certified, with return receipt, do you need to put a return address on it?
My wife is the administrator of her mothers estate and needs to send a certified check to her (my wife’s) brother. We want nothing to do with him, nor do we want him to know where we live. We just need to fulfill the obligation.
He disappeared when his mother was dying last September. He has resurfaced in text messages. He smells money.
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The PO will need an address to send the return receipt request to.

Maybe talk to your Postmaster and see if you can address it General Delivery. It will go to the PO and you will have to pick it up.

That is usually for people without a permanent address, but if you explain the situation they may allow it. Unless you don't want him to know what city or town.

Or as mentioned, maybe hire an attorney to send it for you using their return address.
 
CudaChick used to be a paralegal.
 
Thanks for all of the ideas.
We haven’t used a lawyer yet, but I was thinking about it. Probably the safest bet.
We have some time yet before the estate is settled. I’ll let y’all know what we do.
 
Treblig said:
Get a PO box at the local post office, when the return receipt arrives cancel the box!!
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This but you get stuck paying 6 month's on the PO Box. But can get rid of it anytime. But will pay 6 month fee.
 
340six said:
This but you get stuck paying 6 month's on the PO Box. But can get rid of it anytime. But will pay 6 month fee.
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In that case you can borrow a friend's PO box or friend's home address?? The simplest solutions are usually the best!
 
Treblig said:
Get a PO box at the local post office, when the return receipt arrives cancel the box!!
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The problem is that the PO box still has an address so that still I identifies which city they live in so if you own property they can still locate you.
 
I have sent things with a return address as.

3rd Cardboard Box, Behind Wal-Mart, City, State and Zip Code
 
SpeedThrills said:
I know I can get the answer to this question at my local post office, but I thought I’d ask on here first.
If you send something certified, with return receipt, do you need to put a return address on it?
My wife is the administrator of her mothers estate and needs to send a certified check to her (my wife’s) brother. We want nothing to do with him, nor do we want him to know where we live. We just need to fulfill the obligation.
He disappeared when his mother was dying last September. He has resurfaced in text messages. He smells money.
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If this hasn't already been sent, this is what I suggest.
Send the check registered mail with a return receipt.
If you're not going to add a return address, I suggest this method. This does a couple of things,
1. Anyone within the USPS that touches that letter must sign for it and becomes accountable for it. Registered letters don't get lost. They get special treatment from point A to B.
2. The return receipt will come back to you with a signature.
This service does cost extra.
When I was a mail carrier, not having a return address with a certified letter was always a risky thing. If he doesn't claim the check, (this happens a lot with folks of questionable repute) how will the Post Office return it to you. We didn't (at the P/O level) disturb the return receipt. So if a certified letter goes unclaimed, without a return address, it went to the dead letter office. They may or may not return it to you, if they do, it may take months if not years.
I'm also going to throw this out there, if your BIL really wants to find you, its way to easy. I recently found a family member who hadn't been seen or heard from since 1979. I wrote him to let him know another family member had passed. He, surprisingly, attended the visitation and we spoke briefly. His #2 question was how I found him and the answer was Google.
Regardless, good luck.
 
gunbunny said:
I'm also going to throw this out there, if your BIL really wants to find you, its way to easy. I recently found a family member who hadn't been seen or heard from since 1979. I wrote him to let him know another family member had passed. He, surprisingly, attended the visitation and we spoke briefly. His #2 question was how I found him and the answer was Google.
Regardless, good luck.
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Correct... Hard to hide anywhere if you have a footprint somewhere. Info is easy to obtain.
 
Yes, he could find us with little effort. He knows he’s not welcome here, and that’s an understatement. He’s never been here and we’re not going to make any easier for him if he decides to make the mistake of coming here. Thanks all!
 
SpeedThrills said:
Yes, he could find us with little effort. He knows he’s not welcome here, and that’s an understatement. He’s never been here and we’re not going to make any easier for him if he decides to make the mistake of coming here. Thanks all!
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I'd just hate for you to loose a check. Yes you made an effort, but in my experience assholes that have entitlement issues don't let up.
 
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