Daughter's fiance' to ask for her hand in marriage. How did you respond?

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This won't go over well, but without going into detail, I can tell you that the divorce rate for two people in that position is incredible.
 
RustyRatRod said:
If he's worth a ****, tell him yeah. If not, throw his *** out.
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And toss away your Daughter too...... not great advice. If he's a danger or a real trouble maker, then go to talk to him alone, man to man waaaay before it gets to this point.
 
He didn't ask. He's dead now. I mean dead to me.I mean estranged by his choice.
The other one didn't ask either. He has a broken neck, that won't heal properly to this day.I probably didn't have anything to do with that either.
Those girls were shacked up for years before they got the paperwork in order.
What could I do, I was shacked up too, for a year before the wife and I had a proper church wedding.
I have a son, also shacked up 4 years now. With two boys to prove the equipment works. Dumb ***, was I for starting the trend. At least we were married three years before starting our family, such as it is.
All bashing aside, they are all pretty good and hard working kids. And if they hadda come to me I wouldda said welcome to the family, cuz if my daughter let you into her personal space, that's all I need to know.Come on in and lets celebrate.
I learned one thing tho, to keep my mouth shut when they come around, cuz apparently my humor sucks.
 
He asked me for his blessing. I told him I felt he was a very good young man, and I appreciated his desire to have my approval.
I asked him if he loved my daughter, and I said that is not enough. I asked if they were each others best friend? Told him that is what you need. The rest in life come from that. I asked if he had ever asked my daughter if I could go "nuts"? He said "no", So I advised him to ask her, and told him don't ever make me go nuts! I could kill and would you.
Just good honest discussion.
 
magnumdart said:
Living together before marriage. A recipe for disaster.
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I have to disagree there. My wife and I lived together for 7 years before getting married. Mainly cause we were trying to save money for a fancy wedding which we ultimately said the heck with. Been over 15 years now. We're still going strong.

Besides, the fact is that at least 50 % of all marriages will end in divorce no matter what. So i doubt living together for any length is gonna effect that chance much in either direction
 
I made my wife a promise on our wedding day and I know how to keep a promise,
So while the divorce stats are certainly off the charts that doesn't make it right. Now the Bible says neither spouse of this divorced marriage can remarry until one of them dies, else it is called adultery.............. 85% of Americans say they are Christians., The same people who give up their babies on the altar to Molech calling it Pro-Life. I call that five strikes already. And you wonder where God is in America? The blood of those babies is crying up to heaven. The fornication, the idolatry, the adultery, the Murder of those innocent babies, and lying,and stealing,and the total lack of respect for God and His Sabbath has driven a wedge between God and the Land of the Free-for-all, and He ain't coming back until the appointed time.
I am not a Christian. Those Pro-Life Christians are a lying thieving murdering God hating bunch;Who tarnish all the other Silverware in the case, and I want not to be associated with them in any way.
I'm a Believer. I came out of that miserable system.
So, I'm sticking to my promise no matter what the consequences. My wife and I just celebrated 41 years last spring., and I'm already looking ahead to our 50th, and Believing that God Almighty will either; get us there, take one of us outta here, or Judgement Day will come first; and I don't actually care which.
But this one thing I know, By having pre-marital sex; wait call it what it was, namely fornication,even tho I married the girl, it's obvious to me, I cursed my kids to do the same, cuz I broke God's law. Every one after me did the same damned thing.
If I had a chance to do it over, I know better now, and there is no way that I would repeat the offense. No Way!
 
dukeboy_318 said:
I have to disagree there. My wife and I lived together for 7 years before getting married. Mainly cause we were trying to save money for a fancy wedding which we ultimately said the heck with. Been over 15 years now. We're still going strong.

Besides, the fact is that at least 50 % of all marriages will end in divorce no matter what. So i doubt living together for any length is gonna effect that chance much in either direction
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I didn't say you can't beat the odds. Everyone thinks they can, especially if they know somebody who did. I'm glad you succeeded. Your success story is in the minority.
Look up the numbers...they will make you cringe.
 
magnumdart said:
I didn't say you can't beat the odds. Everyone thinks they can, especially if they know somebody who did. I'm glad you succeeded. Your success story is in the minority.
Look up the numbers...they will make you cringe.
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So will the divorce statistics for people who didn’t live together before being married.

Point is, it’s about the people involved and their content of character...not anything else.
 
I will tell you what I have said to every boy/man who dated (1 married, then divorced) my daughter; "if you make her cry I will make you cry", "if you put hands on her (in a bad way) you will cease to exist". There is no hyperbole in those statements, I absolutely mean every word and would absolutely do what I have said. fortunately, she doesn't date losers or at least I have never met any so it has worked out. The divorce thing was a result of his drinking problem; a year in my daughter tossed his *** and divorced him.
 
When my daughters guy stopped by and asked, I asked if he planned on having children. He said yes and I have a6 and8 yr old grandsons
 
Ddaddy said:
So will the divorce statistics for people who didn’t live together before being married.

Point is, it’s about the people involved and their content of character...not anything else.
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Sure, and character is also what decides if a man if going to live in sin with a girl, or if he's going to make an honest woman out of her
 
My daughter sent him to see me. I don't know if he would have came himself. When he came his body language suggested he was nervous and I did nothing to make him comfortable. I asked him if he loved my daughter right off the bat, to see how he answered. If he was embarrassed or confident and secure enough to answer directly. He looked directly at me and said yes, I do and will forever. I told him how much I adore my only child and how important her happiness and security is to me. We spoke for about 30 minutes and I listened a lot more than talked. It was probably the most difficult half hour of his life. I still make him a little nervous after 8 years and I like that, but I have a spectacular granddaughter, so I give him a little slack.
 

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