I'm not dead...yet.

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  1. ramenth

    ramenth Gratis persona

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    Told Frankie I'd come in and post an update since I haven't been around in a while.

    Let's start from the beginning. My last thread my have been back in February, when my mom died.

    We'll go further back than that.

    After all the struggles of trying saving my house it was a battle I lost. In an emergency situation I moved the boys and I in with Pop, where I was able to help him with Momma, including through her death and the subsequent grief afterwards.

    Now, I'm getting back on my feet. Landed a damned good job back in August that is allowing me the financial freedom to not only get caught up on what laid behind me, but working for the future.

    I'm back at CAF USA, building trains, but this time I'm in rework as a painter, rebuilding and gelcoating broken rooms and panels, primarily for the Amtrak contract. I will say, I'm the go to guy for the most difficult work.

    Pop's new focus, since he took care of Momma for a good decade before her death, is helping me raise the boys. God bless the man, he's 78 and takes 5 year old Cyrus to school every morning and picks him up in the afternoon and takes care of three year Nick during the day.

    I'm still battling mental health issues, but have eliminated the stress of dealing with the boys' mom, which has taken a load off, simply because I keep the majority of our conversations to the boys and the boys only.

    No girl in the present. And no one I can see in the near future. I joke with my friends that if God wants me to have a woman in my life she is gonna have to walk out of the crowd and take me by the hand. I'm too old to play games and too stupid to take hints. Lol

    Thanks to a couple of good friends who have helped me along the way, I have reinvigorated my walk with God, coming to forgive a lot that was done to me and, more important, forgive myself for a lot of the things I did to others. And remember, after being absolutely crushed by those things, God doesn't see me as worthless.

    I feel the old me coming back. Confident. Humorous. Loving life, again. As a matter of fact, the guy I work with in the fiberglass booth probably thinks I'm nuts, since I crank the music and dance the day away while I'm working. :lol:

    I have a good future ahead me, raising my boys. I enjoy every minute of it.
     
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    • Ddaddy

      Ddaddy I'm changing the World... one pixel at a time! FABO Gold Member

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      I am glad to see you are getting your wheels under you again. It’s your life and what it becomes is entirely up to you. Looks like you decided to embrace joy and reject the rest...nice!

      :thumbsup:
       
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      • plymouth67

        plymouth67 It be a lot cooler if you did...

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        Keep your chin up brother!!! It sounds like every day is better than the last one. Keep your thoughts and attitude positive and good things come rolling in. Sorry to hear about your mom, I lost mine back in July.
         
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        • SGBARRACUDA

          SGBARRACUDA ROY FABO Gold Member

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          Keep on keeping on, The alternative sucks. Sounds like your on the way up.
           
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          • RSie

            RSie Idiot In Training

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            Keep on keepin' on man.
            My philosophy is this: 'When life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade. Throw em' in the freezer, and bean the next person that gets in your way with one'.
             
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            • FISHYPETE

              FISHYPETE Well-Known Member

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              You have been through tough times, more than most. I’m glad to see you in good health. Take care of yourself
               
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              • pauly

                pauly MOPAR or no car! FABO Gold Member

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                God will always be with you, through the thick and the thin. You have much values in the eyes of the Lord.

                I will keep you in my prayers.
                 
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                • memike

                  memike Super Moderator Staff Member FABO Gold Member

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                  Outstanding new !! So glad to see you are on your feet and living life like you mean it
                  Welcome back :thumbsup:
                   
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                  • RustyRatRod

                    RustyRatRod 30 Degrees Outta Whack FABO Gold Member

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                    Like our old local weatherman Bill Powell (RIP) used to say, "Keep on keepin on". Glad you ain't dead. Keep it that way.
                     
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                    • 4spdragtop

                      4spdragtop FABO Gold Member FABO Gold Member

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                      Welcome back Robert! Dad helped me in a very similar situation. We had a good relationship and it made it great.
                       
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                      • rustyfish

                        rustyfish Well Done Member

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                        Good for you, sounds like the past has passed and the future is looking brighter. Ignore the negative and embrace the positive. Best wishes for you.
                         
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                        • 383Duster

                          383Duster Well-Known Member

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                          Good job fighting back...enjoy
                           
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                          • JDMopar

                            JDMopar Well-Known Member

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                            Glad you're doing well Robert. There's several people on this board whos hand I'd like to shake someday, and yours is at the top of the list. Reading the things you have shared here about the struggles you've had to endure, and just refused to give up, makes me feel like you're the strongest person I've never met. Keep on keeping on, and you deserve all the good things that are starting to come to you. :thumbsup:
                             
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                            • greymouser7

                              greymouser7 Vagrant Vagabond “Veni Vidi Vici” FABO Gold Member

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                              Missed you Robert.

                              As long as you are are doing well, that’s all that matters.

                              We were worried about you.

                              I have always appreciated and enjoyed your perspective here.

                              Best wishes and GOD bless you and your family.
                               
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                              • oldkimmer

                                oldkimmer FABO Gold Member FABO Gold Member

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                                I’m glad ur on the way to better things in ur life. U have had more than ur fair share of heart break. I applaud u for being so strong thru it all. U r a great man. God bless u. Kim
                                 
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                                • rumblefish360

                                  rumblefish360 So close, yet so far away

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                                  Glad to see you’re still around there Robert!
                                  Glad you stopped in to say hello to everybody.
                                   
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                                  • 340doc

                                    340doc Well-Known Member

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                                    I enjoyed reading your positive post. It reminded me we can all come back from hard times. Glad for you!
                                     
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                                    • R4Sedan

                                      R4Sedan It's hopped up to over 160 FABO Gold Member

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                                      Robert, glad things are going well.
                                      The main things in life are family.
                                      Take care of yourself and those boy's.
                                      Keep Jesus in your life and he'll keep you on track brother.
                                       
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