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lhearold

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Hope you guys and gals don't mind a little personal sorrow. Need to tell the world a little about my wife. On June 4th my wife of 20 years died of a strange type of lung cancer that seems to be genetic to those who are descendants of familes in coal mining areas of the eastern US. In 7 months she went from being a vibrant full of life energetic person to a husk that subsisted on mega-doses of pain medications.
Not only was she my wife but also my best friend. We never had any disagreements over anything. I know now that I should have told her a lot more how much she meant to me and spent a lot more time with her. Her whole family has died of the same thing over the last 15 years or so and she doesn't have many relatives left. We both have no account kids from previous marriages that can't (or won't) be bothered. So its me and our 3 dogs making a go of it. I miss her every day and sometimes wonder how I'll make it from one day to the next but life goes on and I know that one of these days the pain of my loss will be less and I can begin to see some light again. Its just tough getting there from here. I am glad that her pain and suffering is over and she is in a much better place, at least in my mind. In my heart though is a different story! Stephanie was a veteran of both the Navy and the Army. Loved Corvettes but was tolerant of MOPARs and most other old cars. Liked Law and Order TV show and Chinese food. Would brave her life for a stranded or stray animal (our dogs are proof of that), and most of all tolerated an old *** like me that spent too much time in the garage or doing some other damn thing when I should have been in the house... And I love her more than she will ever know!!!!

So, in memory of my wife Stephanie Hearold 2-17-1944 to 6-4-2010

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Tears in my eyes and you have my heartfelt condolences. Times like these there is nothing anyone can say to make the hurt and emptiness go away but be assured that a future memory of her smile will bring one to you.
 
Very sorry for your loss, sounds like a wonderful woman. If you need some friends you have them here on fabo, I wish you the best.
 

sorry to hear that man, just remember to look back on the good times man! you should set up a memorial cruise or car show in her memory! could even raise funds for cancer awareness or the lung cancer she passed from. Wished I lived closer so I could help!
 
Loss for words here as well however your FABO family is here for you through this hard time. I am so sorry to hear this!

My brother lost his wife of 25 years to cancer in 2005, she was at home the whole time with the help of hospice. Like you he lost his best friend . I know to this day he thinks of her every day. It must be very hard for you, if you need to, PM me to vent or just chat.

Kim
 
We are all here for you Herold, during this time just keep reminding yourself that she is with God and is completely restored and best of all waiting for you!!
 
My condolences to you and her family. You both sound like wonderful people and I'm sure she would want you to carry on the heartfelt work you both were so fond of. I know this won't quell the pain, but try to find solace in the knowledge that you now have a guardian angel in heaven. May God bless you both.
 
We had hospice come in too and it made it easier for her. She was a fighter though. about 10 years ago she found that she had osteoporosis of the lower spine and was on medication for the pain. Then 3 years ago they said whe was getting early onset alzheimer's. Last december they changed her meds for the back pain and her mental abilities came back. 3 weeks later they dignosed cancer. I closed up my business and stayed home to try and take care of her as well as possible and without the hospice people it wouldn't have been possible! Here anyway they are a wonderful group! I am glad I was able to spend the last 20 years with her. I just wish it could have been a lot longer! She was from Flushing, NY (part of the Queens in the city for those not in the know) and wil be buried in the Long Island National Cemetery with both of her parents. Her dad was a navy vet from the 1920s. You wouldn't believe the headaches of trying to arrange for the service long distance! I think the sad part is though, we think of our children as a way of being remembered. Otherwise all you are is a name on a headstone and when your children don't have the will, respect, or whatever, to do that your legacy is kinda lost. Just rambling.....
 
My heart goes out to you and your family.
Your wife sound like a very special woman.
Hang in there. We are all here for you.
God Bless!
 
We are so sorry for your loss. That was a beautiful tribute to your wife and I can't even imagine what you are going through although my eyes are welling up and there is a lump in my throat. Although a small consolation, please know that your post gives all of us something to think about and makes us stop and really think about our relationships with our loved ones and how special they are and how precious life & time really are. Our prayers are with you and if you need another jabber-jaw FABO penpal, feel free to send me a PM.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss.She sounds like a wonderful woman.Don't hesitate to vent or rant ,we are here for you.God bless her and you .
 
My condolensces, she sure sounds like an amazing woman, and like someone previously said now you have a perfect guardian angel looking out for you. We are all here to listen,
God Bless
 
I have said a prayer for you. I hope that others, like myself, will gain from your desire to share and realize what a blessing we have in our spouses. I am sorry for your loss, but your spending time with her in the end was a great gift to her, and she knew that. It is hard, but consider it a gift that she has given you, too, to get close to her. Remember her and live your life in a way that would honor her! Heck, go test drive a Corvette down to the animal shelter and make a donation in her name. You won't be able to believe the smile it will bring! May God Bless you and comfort you as he prepares you for the next journey he has for you.
bamacuda
 
...................My most sincere condolences...........my thoughts and prayers are with u and the families ..........i cant even imagine the pain u are going thru........i think we all take our wives 4 granted, never spending enough time with them, even though our time is split into numerous pieces of the pie......there never seem 2 b enough 2 go around..........kim........
 
Larry, I read your "for sale" post on your wife's Audi a couple of days ago and did not comment due to the new rules. I should have sent you a PM right then, my bad.

Please accept my deepest condolences during this difficult time. Sometimes, sharing your feelings helps a bit and I hope your extended family members here on FABO will provide you with a little solace and peace. Cherish the memories and take comfort in the good times you had together. Prayers are on the way from AZ for you.

Tears running......take care. :sad8:
 
Thank you all for the prayers and kind words. I know she is probably looking over my shoulder and feels the thoughts that you al send out. Its hard to walk into an empty house and know that the person you have spent your life with will not be coming back to it. There is an emptiness that is so totally sifferent than if she were just out for the day or shopping, or whatever. I try to keep busy but run out of things to do, or things I even care about doing. The dogs are a consolation and good company but they miss her too. Funny, the more sickshe became, the fewer of our friends came around. I know it was probably uncomfortable and they didn't know what to say or whatever. And now I have a pile of symphathy cards but very few knocks on the door. Hospice has several grief counselling groups and I figured I'd attend one. Being the only husband there was something else. Most of the session was about how to arrange your finances or who to contact about insurance, etc., and it didn't apply to me. The group facilitator apologized after it was over and said they don't really have any counselling for husbands. Go figure! I'm glad I decided to talk to you guys though. Lot of pain to get off my chest and still a lot of tears to fall before I get thru this. I really appreciate it a lot. Thanks to all.
 
your family (FABO) is here for you! PM me if you need to talk, sure several others feel the same way. I lost two close uncles to a genetic cancer and know how you feel, both of them are the reason i got into mechanics and mopars!
 
Anyone around or near Leominster, MA want to get a car show or cruise going in memory of Stephanie Hearold? trying to get something going since I don't live near there.
 
Ahhhhhhhhhhh, man! So sorry to read this. Best of luck and best wishes to you.
 
Very sorry to hear about this..

Please accept my deepest condolences..

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I"ll be praying for you... If you need to talk or vent, feel free to PM me as well.
 
Prayers and thoughts are with you. Have trust in the lord and remember that she is no longer suffering. You will see her again. Remember she is not gone, just behind a door that you cannot open yet. Again my heartfelt prayers for you and your family.
 
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