like my mom raised me

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chivalry is dead, and women killed it! I still hold doors open for all females and the elderly. It's sad that I get more "thank you's" from the old men than all women combined! Now when I get out in "the sticks" its about 50 -50...
 
mtandrews said:
chivalry is dead, and women killed it! I still hold doors open for all females and the elderly. It's sad that I get more "thank you's" from the old men than all women combined! Now when I get out in "the sticks" its about 50 -50...
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I think Lovington NM would be considered the sticks for you, but a good friend of me and my wife is living in san antonio. She's a well mannered 27 year old woman. So keep looking. I know they're there.
 
I can tell from personal experince that its the kids that are raised right that hold the doors. I work at a High School teaching special ed classes and well those kids are the bottom rung of society when it comes to manners, cleanliness and common sense. But every morning when I come into the building if an athlete/involved student is at the door they will open it for me. So its not dead its just now based on the level of maturity of the parents.
 
Always have and still do hold doors open for others; open the car door for my wife and any other female that may be riding with us (even if their husband doesn't); walk on the street side of the sidewalk or traffic side of the parking lot lane when walking with my wife - and cross behind them when changing sides. The thing that usually embarrasses others at work and other places is when I say "Good Morning, how are you" and don't get a reply - I'll wait a suitable amount of time and then say, "Me too". It's changed some of the people in the office to now give responses when asked.
Manners should never die.
Just the way I was raised.
 
ILLDuster74 said:
I can tell from personal experince that its the kids that are raised right that hold the doors. I work at a High School teaching special ed classes and well those kids are the bottom rung of society when it comes to manners, cleanliness and common sense. But every morning when I come into the building if an athlete/involved student is at the door they will open it for me. So its not dead its just now based on the level of maturity of the parents.
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could you clarify this i need to fully understand before making comment of special ed kids being bottom rung of society as i have a grandchild that is in such a class and i take a lot of offense to your statement
 
ding ding ding alright guy's we want a clean fight no low blows only punch to the head , I opened the car door for my wife one time and she got furious ,I don't know why we were only doing 55.... Bah dump bump
 
I'm 44 and always open the door for whoever - women, men and the elderly. Since I'm in Canada, I get thank you's about 80% of the time.

However, when I was 9 or 10 I was in the "big city" ( Ottawa ) with my parents. I opened a shopping mall door for a "lady". Her response was, and I quote, "I can get my own damn door!!!". Shocked me to say the least,



Wylde1.
 
yea that sounds about right here. people around here open the door, and hold onto the handle as they go thru to shut the door asap so if you're more than 4 strides behind them you have to open it. I stil open doors and get thanks from some people, but others look at me as if I MUST open the door for them. so sad
 
ILLDuster74 said:
I can tell from personal experince that its the kids that are raised right that hold the doors. I work at a High School teaching special ed classes and well those kids are the bottom rung of society when it comes to manners, cleanliness and common sense. But every morning when I come into the building if an athlete/involved student is at the door they will open it for me. So its not dead its just now based on the level of maturity of the parents.
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i have read this post over and over and i am glad you are not teaching my grandson if you dont like what your doing try something else like your qoute says every village needs a idiot good luck to you
 
I can't speak for all the ladies, but I appreciate it when someone holds or opens a door for me and was raised to remember my manners in all occasions. Hang in there guys! Some of us don't believe chivalry is dead and still appreciate your efforts. :-D
 
I always say "thank you" when a lady holds a door open for me. :toothy10:

Honestly I live in a small community and it is rare if people are not polite.
 
iggys68dart said:
i have read this post over and over and i am glad you are not teaching my grandson if you dont like what your doing try something else like your qoute says every village needs a idiot good luck to you
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I believe he ment kids who get in trouble at school and have problems behaving. The kids that have problems behaving based on there lack of proper upbringing and parents who care. Not kids with special/mental disibilities. These classes are called special ed now which is the Politically correct terminology now.
 
well if that is true i apolgize and wish to retract any any statement that was deragatory i did not take it that way thats why i was waiting for response my grandson has autism and he needs all the help he can get
 
Yeah it's not like when we went to school and there were special ed kids. special ed has a whole nuther meanin now.
 

I hold doors open for folks. Most of 'em appreciate it.

In my younger days, I'd say in my early 20's, my best friend and I were going into the local grocery store and I held the door open for a woman who was passing through. She looked at me in my tech uniform from the local dealership and put her nose in the air. For some reason that got to me. I through a "You're welcome....b****" at her. She spun on her heels and started screaming.

"What did you call me?"

"What you are... You looked at me like I was beneath you and I'm your servant, doing what I'm supposed to do," I replied.

What I didn't see was her 6' something boyfriend behind me. The guy looked like a linebacker!

"Did you hear what he called me? What are going to do about it?" She demanded of him.

He looked at her and said, "Nothing. He's right. You looked at him and turned your nose up like you're the friggin' queen of England and he's just a commoner. He's right: you are a b****."

He apologized to me. They marched across the parking lot with him still berating her for her attitude.

My best friend looked at me shaking his head. "Robert, your mouth is going to get both our asses kicked one of these days."

Maybe she learned something that day about manners of her own.

There's also been some good times. Going into the local small town pharmacy I was in a hurry one day and an elderly woman with a walker was coming out. She was very slow and I was getting a little impatient standing there with the door open so I could go on with my business. She looked at me with such a huge smile as I held the door, so appreciative of it.

"I'm sorry, sir, I'm so slow," she said. "But I thank you so much! These doors can be a hassle with this thing," indicating her walker.

I just smiled at her. "It's my pleasure to wait for such a beautiful young lady!" I said back.

The smile on her face was priceless.

I learned something that day.
 
Iggy and 16,
We should get together sometime. I live on the west side--Crystal Springs Rd. Across I-10 from the Publix warehouse.
 
Chivalry ain't dead, it just got tired of being ignored...

Those that were taught manners will always have them. Most still choose to use them.
 
I get thank yous about 95% of the time. Come to Milwaukee, we have more polite people. :D
 
Its not too bad around here, what really gets me is when I hold the door open around campus and there will be some giant football player who walks through, and says thank you, then some little pipsqueak who looks like he's scared of the sun won't even so much as nod... I hate that. Thank you, 2 little words, takes no time out of your day.

Its the same thing with letting people in in traffic, just a little hand wave is all I expect...
 
I have noticed it as well. When I hold a door for some stranger and they don't say
'thank you", reply with "YOUR WELCOME".
Some will say thanks you afterward.
My 16 yo daughter will always hold a door open for the elderly, so its like having my own doorwoman.:toothy10:
 
I have a habit of calling people sir and ma’am. Some people get upset when I do this because they think I’m calling them old. But to me it’s better to answer that way then say “hey” or excuse me lady. To me its just a term of respect to the person I’m talking to.
 
I always open doors for people. I really don't care about the thank you thing too much. I'd say its about a 40-60 shot here in Hall. 40% say thank you. The rest just varies. I was always raised to be polite and hold the door open for others, no matter who, as long as you know they are coming in or out.

My worst experience was at a Quick Trip. It was around 1 A.M. and I stopped at QT to grab some food and gas and a drink. Well, as I am leaving, I hold open the door for 4 guys my age and a girl walking in. The girl and her boyfriend were a lil ahead of their 3 buddies, they pass and say thank you and then the 3 other guys come walking past and one of them decides it'd be absolutely hilarious to knock my drink out of my hand on purpose. The clerk saw what happened and comp'd me another drink. I just left after that cuz I wasn't looking to get my asskicked.:toothy10:

The best time I can think of was when I was 13, I opened the door for an old man and old lady to go into CVS. Well, as I was leaving, I was once again ahead of them and opened the door for them to leave. The older lady looks at me and says "Harold, he is such a young gentleman! Here's 20$ young lad, don't spend it all in one place":-D. That made my week. I bought my friends and me a giant pizza that was delicious.
 
I just started dating a lady a couple of months ago. We are both in our mid 40's. I always open the car/store/resturant doors for her, compliment her on her appearance, send her flowers and give her candy, and walk her to her front door every evening. She keeps telling me that she has never had someone pay her that kind of attention before! I keep on telling her that's how I was raised. I believe that she enjoys it, she keeps thanking me all the time!
As far as holding the door for others, I do it all the time. Mostly don't get a response around here. If I'm in a cranky mood, and I get no response, I might yell out "you are still a human being aren't you"?? That gets them thinking. I had an elderly black woman "God Bless me" last year around Christmas time. Really made my day! P.S., read my signature!!!
 
I hold the door open for my wife and two to three teens will walk right in behind her without so much as a second glance. You can't even shame them with a loud thank you.
Most folks still will say thanks and if someone holds a door for me I always thank them.
 
DarTT said:
I always open doors for people. I really don't care about the thank you thing too much. I'd say its about a 40-60 shot here in Hall. 40% say thank you. The rest just varies. I was always raised to be polite and hold the door open for others, no matter who, as long as you know they are coming in or out.

My worst experience was at a Quick Trip. It was around 1 A.M. and I stopped at QT to grab some food and gas and a drink. Well, as I am leaving, I hold open the door for 4 guys my age and a girl walking in. The girl and her boyfriend were a lil ahead of their 3 buddies, they pass and say thank you and then the 3 other guys come walking past and one of them decides it'd be absolutely hilarious to knock my drink out of my hand on purpose. The clerk saw what happened and comp'd me another drink. I just left after that cuz I wasn't looking to get my asskicked.:toothy10:
The best time I can think of was when I was 13, I opened the door for an old man and old lady to go into CVS. Well, as I was leaving, I was once again ahead of them and opened the door for them to leave. The older lady looks at me and says "Harold, he is such a young gentleman! Here's 20$ young lad, don't spend it all in one place":-D. That made my week. I bought my friends and me a giant pizza that was delicious.
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that one experience sounded like a charlie daniels song you shoulda kicked ol green teeth in the knee
 
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