Uh, Oh!

[TrailBeast]

Boy if I was a bit more of a vengeful person, somebody's life would be quite a bit different today.
The Father of two of my Grandkids is in his 40's, is an Afgan Vet, emotional issue's, physically and verbally abusive to my Daughter AND an employee of the Federal Government as a civilian at the local VA.
Well one day a little while back he was particularly assholish so our Daughter brought the kids and came over to our house.
On her way out the door he grabber her by the back of her hair and yanked her back inside.
Well, she sent him to the hospital over that one with a fractured jaw.
Next thing ya know she is getting these super violent and abusive texts from him saying how he's going to take the kids away from her and if he has to try and get the cops to believe we sell drugs so they can be removed from a dangerous environment and have full custody he'll do it, as she is obviously a dangerous person anyway and now he can prove it because of his jaw.
He has since been notified in no uncertain terms that he is not welcome here any longer, and if we come face to face again ANYWHERE it could be a bad thing.
He has also been arrested multiple times for domestic violence against our Daughter who is 34, and is the reason she and the kids moved in here with us.

Well we don't sell drugs, or even drink, but he smokes weed and drinks both.
Last night he got arrested for possession along with his car getting impounded.

He called in to his job this morning saying he was so sick he couldn't get out of bed to call earlier. (He was still in jail when he was due at work)
I'm not going to kick the hell out of him while he's down, but it is SOOO tempting to call the VA and file a complaint about them employing a drug user and back it up with the police report.
Job, GONE.
Retirement, GONE
Job recommendations from the VA? Ha!

In spite of the total payback possible here, I'm not going to do it.
He's probably to dumb to even realize what could have happened here today.

 

[Lustle]

We have a saying out here. Shoot. Shovel. Shut up.

Not that that is advice or I'm advocating anything in any way. I'm just saying.

That said. Have her start filing paperwork. She needs to beat him to the punch (the irony). She needs to file paperwork with the local PD about his abuse. Anyone who witnessed him attacking her needs to file a witness report. She needs to spill the beans so to say about his domestic, drug and alcohol abuse. The sooner the cops have this the better. Whoever goes to the cops first is generally seen as more "credible". It sucks. But I think its time for daughter to come home and reconnect with her family. Raising children in your house will be a lot healthier for them. Trust me I speak from experience.

You have any prayers/well wishes I can send.

 

[diymirage]

tell your daughter to save those text
just in case a PPO may be in order, or he tries to paint a one sided story

and its one thing for a boy to grow up without a dad, but to grow up without a dad AND a granddad, you would be putting those kids at a real disadvantage

 

[ScampMike]

keep being the bigger person that you are being, good on you! - his day is coming and he won't be able to "blame" you - all he'll have is the mirror... payback takes many forms. Regardless of what you do, he has already started digging his hole.

 

[TrailBeast]

We have a saying out here. Shoot. Shovel. Shut up.

Not that that is advice or I'm advocating anything in any way. I'm just saying.

That said. Have her start filing paperwork. She needs to beat him to the punch (the irony). She needs to file paperwork with the local PD about his abuse. Anyone who witnessed him attacking her needs to file a witness report. She needs to spill the beans so to say about his domestic, drug and alcohol abuse. The sooner the cops have this the better. Whoever goes to the cops first is generally seen as more "credible". It sucks. But I think its time for daughter to come home and reconnect with her family. Raising children in your house will be a lot healthier for them. Trust me I speak from experience.

You have any prayers/well wishes I can send.

The local PD knows all about it already through previous filings, arrests, witnesses and reports exactly as you mentioned.
Heck even his landlord filed a witness report.
I'm personally not worried for anyone but her and the kids, and as long as they are living here it won't be a problem at all with him.
I can file a complaint with the VA any time I want now and get him drug tested.
His *** is mine whenever I choose for it to be now.

 

[4spdragtop]

I commend you on so many levels with what you have going on in this thread! Best wishes for a positive outcome.

 

[Lustle]

The local PD knows all about it already through previous filings, arrests, witnesses and reports exactly as you mentioned.
Heck even his landlord filed a witness report.
I'm personally not worried for anyone but her and the kids, and as long as they are living here it won't be a problem at all with him.
I can file a complaint with the VA any time I want now and get him drug tested.
His *** is mine whenever I choose for it to be now.

Well that's good then. You guys have a rocky road ahead but I'm sure you'll make it through.

 

[red67gts]

he needs to keep a job to pay for his kids and the VA will find out about his arrests on their own

 

[TrailBeast]

he needs to keep a job to pay for his kids and the VA will find out about his arrests on their own

Exactly what I thought also.