That's awesome Frank.
You are truly doing God's work taking care of those little ones and the blessings will pour in through the good times and the rough times.
I know the feeling, my Wife and I took foster parenting classes several years ago, and as soon as we graduated the classes, the state gave us four biological sisters to foster, and we already had two biological daughters.
The oldest girl was 11 years old at the time they arrived and now she is 19 and on her own.
The four girls had a rough, rough childhood with a disgusting pig of a mother that actually pimped out those little girls to get drug money so you can only imagine some of the emotional problems we had to deal with and are still dealing with.
I'll tell ya, it was not easy and we continued fostering about thirty other kids that came through our home from time to time, but we finally adopted three out of four of the sisters nine years ago and decided to stop fostering and concentrate on the girls we had.
The state decided to let a therapeutic foster home take the youngest sister since her emotions were out of control and they decided it was best to separate her from her sisters since she was so violent towards others.
Apparently she is doing fine with her family, but she still has issues they are dealing with.
I wish we could have kept her with her sisters but like I said, she was out of control and not fair to the rest of the kids.
The state sends a monthly check to help, but it covers enough for food, and the healthcare for the girls is covered as well so all we have to do is try to give the kids a better life than the one they had, and brother, it's not easy by any means.
Our oldest is now 19 and on her own and we got her out the door with $10-k in savings, a good job, and a college scholarship and we've done a great job doing our part, but unfortunately, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
She's got an azzhole for a boyfriend and she blew all her money in a matter of two months, and she's ready to start school full time and her jerk boyfriend is dragging her down and there is not much I can do about it but let the other girls watch and learn.
The only incident I had with the girls birth family is when their big, fat white trash asses showed up at the oldests graduation ceremony and surrounded her afterwards and were taking pictures of her with their cell phones.
She was devastetd and I got in the middle of them and told them they all better back off or I'm gonna start dropping them one by one starting with the new boyfriend.
They got the message and backed off, and I told them not to show up at any more of these graduations because my version of justice for child abusers is much different than that of the law enforcement version.
Man, you would not believe some of the stuff I saw with how some of these poor kids were abused.
Every single case involved drug use from the so called parents, and some kids had birth defects and motor skill problems, brain disorders, and every single girl that came into out home had been sexually abused by a relative or an associate of the birth family.
I think the adoption route is easier than the fostering route because when you foster, you fall in love with these kids and they go to visit their so called Mothers that are supposed to be following a court ordered case plan and they make all these false promises to the kids during visitations, then the kids are emotional basket cases when the promises never happen.
This goes on and on like a roller coaster and really screws with the kids minds, then the foster family has to deal with the emotional issues.
The hardest thing is letting them go back into that environment when the court says it's okay, again.
I was happy when the scum bag mother finally gave up parental rights when she knew she would be spending five years in prison for drug related crimes.
It has not been an easy road by any means, but knowing the girls actually have a good chance of succeeding in this life makes it worth giving it a shot.
Sorry for the rant Frank, but feel free to let me know if I can help in any way.
