Friends that you had to let go.

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I've noticed over the years that the main two things that will destroy a friendship quicker than anything is religion and politics. But, I've learned to accept the fact that everyone has and is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs, I wish that others I know felt the same way. Life is way too short to be bickering back and forth between friends especially when neither one can change what ever they have disagreed on. I don't believe in holding a grudge as it truly only hurts the one who's holding the grudge. I'm not judging anybody here as I have many faults myself and I'll be the first one to admit it, sometimes it's best to part ways with a long time friend, I've done this my self.
 
I had a family member who use to say, I'm not always right but I'm never wrong. That went through me every time I heard it and I learned to ignore it. Sad thing is he believed it, he passed years ago.
 
There will always be people who are either overly excited about their stuff and ramble on.. or overly cocky who will irritate and or annoy you. Thats life.
For a basic generalization...
If you ever feel like you cant get a word in edgewise... they're the ladder.
If they always have a comeback/similar story.. they're just relating to you..
Remember, learning is exciting and instills more confidence...so take that into account....
...also...
...Having the last word means nothing.
Listening is how you learn.. and its also a trait of a humble person who's content with their abilities and or belongings.


Careful who and how much you complain about people.. for you may be seen in the same light as the one you've grown intolerant of.
 
MOPAROFFICIAL said:
There will always be people who are either overly excited about their stuff and ramble on.. or overly cocky who will irritate and or annoy you. Thats life.
For a basic generalization...
If you ever feel like you cant get a word in edgewise... they're the ladder.
If they always have a comeback/similar story.. they're just relating to you..
Remember, learning is exciting and instills more confidence...so take that into account....
...also...
...Having the last word means nothing.
Listening is how you learn.. and its also a trait of a humble person who's content with their abilities and or belongings.


Careful who and how much you complain about people.. for you may be seen in the same light as the one you've grown intolerant of.
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Agreed, and it reminds me of this: There's a good reason that God gave us two ears, but only one mouth.

And my wife likes to say, "Gratitude means what you have is enough".
 

"I've also learned that loaning someone a $100 and never getting it back was usually money well spent."

Very old, and very spot-on message.
 
MMissile said:
"I've also learned that loaning someone a $100 and never getting it back was usually money well spent."

Very old, and very spot-on message.
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Remember that and never loan money to them again, they are kinda like a bum
 
See, that one does not work for me.
I hate to lose. The guy that borrowed the $100 got away with my money and I'd have a hard time accepting that. I can rid myself of someone without losing money doing it.
 
Kern Dog said:
See, that one does not work for me.
I hate to lose. The guy that borrowed the $100 got away with my money and I'd have a hard time accepting that. I can rid myself of someone without losing money doing it.
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Well, we should be able to tell if someone we know is a rip off artis. If you feel that they don't have the means or the intent to pay back what they borrow then simply don't lend them money
 
Kern Dog said:
See, that one does not work for me.
I hate to lose. The guy that borrowed the $100 got away with my money and I'd have a hard time accepting that. I can rid myself of someone without losing money doing it.
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Well, we should be able to tell if someone we know is a rip off artis. If you feel that they don't have the means or the intent to pay back what they borrow then simply don't lend them money
 
Letting a friend go can be a difficult thing for us to do, but has anyone thought that we just might be the one who is being let go? A true solid friend will be there for you threw the thick and thin of things. Money lending always seems to be what breaks up a friendship, causes family problems, I've lent Money to family and they've said that they promise to pay back and then they don't they seem to think that they don't have to and when they asked me again I said no and told him why and he acted like I was supposed to let it go and lend him some more money and it didn't work.
 
Dan the man said:
Was? Like he passed on?
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Yes. He was staying with me. Renting my lower level of my house. His niece called me last Oct 1st to do a wellness check on him. I found him stone cold dead of the floor. As I mentioned earlier, he was in poor health with heart complications. He looked as if he was trying to let his dog out. But only made it halfway. Laying next to his walker.

I also now have a dog. She is well trained. And certainly knows the house. But I can tell she misses him. But she does have a more active life. With more people interactions. So doing what I can.
 
A couple weeks back, I cut off "Tim", I mentioned him in the opening post.
This friggin guy.....
Never married, never engaged so he just didn't have any consideration for anyone but himself.
The "GlenGuy" above mentioned the guy that called and blabbed on and on to a point where Glen said "What does this have to do with me?"
I agreed with Glen for distancing himself but I have to comment on the last part.
Sometimes, a good friend may need to vent to someone and the recipient may end up listening to a rant that has nothing to do with them.
I'm okay with that IF it is not the theme of every conversation. Friends give each other some consideration for stuff like this BUT if the other guy never asks about how YOU are doing, never stops talking long enough for YOU to speak or somehow cuts the call short when you DO get the chance to speak, cut ties with that guy.
"Tim" called and resumed his usual routine. I did this, I think that, I'm planning this, I want that.
The conversation went maybe 3 minutes with him talking the first 2 of it....almost non stop.
I cut in...."Tim", do you realize that you always talk only about yourself and never ask about anything that I am doing?
Silence.
You talked about your truck, your Ramcharger, the house you bought, the traffic on the street in front of your house, the shed you cleared out, the slope of the grass in the yard, your health issues and everything else but never ONCE asked about anything that I was doing.
Silence again.
Uhh, I asked about the, uh, the 5 speed in your car.
I did that swap 4 1/2 years ago, "Tim".
Silence...then,
Uhh, I'm sorry.
I hung up. I will not call him again. I got nothing from the phone calls with that guy. He wasn't interesting enough to listen to and I was tired of feeling like I had to fight to get a word in.
 
I have enough friends to count of one hand. I have enough people I enjoy seeing, to cover a couple sets of fingers and toes. Then there's the people I rarely ever see or hear from.
It's kinda nice to run into one, but no more than that. There's always the BS hospitable "we'll have to get together".....lol. AS you age, you have less...and lose many along the way.
Many of my good friends, have passed away. Most, way too early.
 
Since high-school, graduated in 72; I have had two man-friends.
The first was a Bible-Study friend. We used to get together once a week. That lasted a few years, but eventually he kicked ME to the curb, lol. It didn't hurt.
I have never needed nor wanted friends.
The second man-friend, I met a couple of years ago, after FABO worked him over.
He hasn't unfriended me yet so, I'd say, Dan and I are still doing OK.
I'm 72 now and not looking for any more friends.
I got Dan, my wife, and my grandkids.
oh yeah, and some fricking lil dogs.
 
I like having friends because I'm a social guy.
Some people like having a day to day friend to chat with. I do. Sometimes it is okay to just have friends that you only see or talk to once a month or so.
If I lived all alone and had no friends and no contact with anyone, I'd go bonkers.
 
I feel like the older I get the less friends I want. Honestly having too many friends is a burden
 
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Kern Dog said:
See, that one does not work for me.
I hate to lose. The guy that borrowed the $100 got away with my money and I'd have a hard time accepting that. I can rid myself of someone without losing money doing it.
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I had that happen to me. I bought the dude a battery for his car when he swore up and down that it was the problem. I was hanging out with my ex so we both went to help him in January at night. The battery was not the issue, it was the fuel pump. He paid me half of the battery after I hounded him for 2 months. Never spoke to him again. I even went to his house and talked to his dad, who helped us get his car on the rollback. He said he didn't remember any of it. I guess the apple landed right next to trunk.
 
The "GlenGuy" above mentioned the guy that called and blabbed on and on to a point where Glen said "What does this have to do with me?"
I agreed with Glen for distancing himself but I have to comment on the last part.
Sometimes, a good friend may need to vent to someone and the recipient may end up listening to a rant that has nothing to do with them.
I'm okay with that IF it is not the theme of every conversation. Friends give each other some consideration for stuff like this BUT if the other guy never asks about how YOU are doing, never stops talking long enough for YOU to speak or somehow cuts the call short when you DO get the chance to speak, cut ties with that guy.
 
I got another friend that I might have to let go at least for awhile. That is #2. I'm noticing a pattern. :) The guy is always angry and bitching at me because of life I guess and the fact that I have already started minimalizing my time with him. He's asking for my wife and I to go on vacation with him (we have never done that but can't take a hint) and will soon retire which scares me because he can't spend a second alone. The guy has zero consideration that other people are different than him or don't appreciate his behavior.
 
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