should i feel this way about fathers day

[moparmat2000]

we have all put out 2 cents worth in, but as I see it, we have failed to recognize the problem you have with the daughter struggling with the O.D.D. years back, we had a friend that her 12 year old daughter had this. I didn't realize what her parents were dealing with till I heard the episode where the daughter went off, and started trying to cut up the family with a butcher knife, ( yes at 12). and yes this was a stable, high middle class family, not a bunch of dopers and such.

all I can say is yes, you do need time for yourself, and whatever "affordable "toys it takes to keep your sanity! I realize many times that word " affordable" is hard to capture in reality!!!

all you can do is " the best you can do" and realize you yourself may not be able to solve every problem. sounds like you are doing all you can for the girl. love her and pray she can come out of it. you undoubtely have an extra burden most of us do not have to bare.

Thanks for the understanding Barbee6043,

I dont think most folks realize how hard its been for my wife and i. We struggle w this kid on a daily basis. We have all our steak knives and sharp knives in a lock box. All my guns have always been in a gun safe, but now its even more of a precaution.

The venom she spews is insane, but heres a few favorites from her hit parade. I hate you, i wish you were dead, i want to kill you, i want to punch you in the face, your not my mommy/daddy. Your a ******* retard. Etc.

The cause of the knives being locked up was that she took a steak knife and repeatedly stabbed an apple on our kitchen counter, putting gouges in the formica countertop, and bending the knife tip flat.

She has run away from home on multiple occasions, we have had to call the police to help us look for her, she has run away from school as well. With everything that has gone on just this year at school, she has recieved an incomplete, and may retake 3rd grade.

To put this all into perspective for anybody who is reading this, she is only 9 years old. We are trying like hell to get it under control before she hits puberty, otherwise i cant even imagine what its going to be like. However if there is such a thing as hell on earth, i bet this would be it.

My wife almost filed for divorce, her stating i hated our middle child. I told my wife our child needs to be tested, somethings way wrong with her. Finally my wife came around realizing this kids got a problem. I also told my wife, if you walk away, this problem with her wont go away , it will just follow you to a new residence.

At this point my wife and i work hard with our middle daughter because we dont want her to become a statistic. Sometimes its at the expense of the other kids not getting attention, and my wife and i neglecting our relationship because of having to deal with this one child.

I scrimp and save for parts for my project, often refurbishing stuff i should just replace. Going to be picking up some free 15x7 chry fifth ave steelies to redo. They arent correct, but my dog dish caps fit and they are BBP so they will work.

Yeah so i imagine this is a big part of the reason i feel like fathers day is a big crock for me. I sometimes feel like God has played a cruel joke on us with what we are dealing with.

 

[Ben Drinkin]

Thanks for the understanding Barbee6043,

I dont think most folks realize how hard its been for my wife and i. We struggle w this kid on a daily basis. We have all our steak knives and sharp knives in a lock box. All my guns have always been in a gun safe, but now its even more of a precaution.

The venom she spews is insane, but heres a few favorites from her hit parade. I hate you, i wish you were dead, i want to kill you, i want to punch you in the face, your not my mommy/daddy. Your a ******* retard. Etc.

The cause of the knives being locked up was that she took a steak knife and repeatedly stabbed an apple on our kitchen counter, putting gouges in the formica countertop, and bending the knife tip flat.

She has run away from home on multiple occasions, we have had to call the police to help us look for her, she has run away from school as well. With everything that has gone on just this year at school, she has recieved an incomplete, and may retake 3rd grade.

To put this all into perspective for anybody who is reading this, she is only 9 years old. We are trying like hell to get it under control before she hits puberty, otherwise i cant even imagine what its going to be like. However if there is such a thing as hell on earth, i bet this would be it.

My wife almost filed for divorce, her stating i hated our middle child. I told my wife our child needs to be tested, somethings way wrong with her. Finally my wife came around realizing this kids got a problem. I also told my wife, if you walk away, this problem with her wont go away , it will just follow you to a new residence.

At this point my wife and i work hard with our middle daughter because we dont want her to become a statistic. Sometimes its at the expense of the other kids not getting attention, and my wife and i neglecting our relationship because of having to deal with this one child.

I scrimp and save for parts for my project, often refurbishing stuff i should just replace. Going to be picking up some free 15x7 chry fifth ave steelies to redo. They arent correct, but my dog dish caps fit and they are BBP so they will work.

Yeah so i imagine this is a big part of the reason i feel like fathers day is a big crock for me. I sometimes feel like God has played a cruel joke on us with what we are dealing with.

I know it may not sound like much, but hang in there.. i believe that somehow we get rewarded for the hell we go through. Without going into any detail, i had a troubled son (mild wording) and me and his mom went through what we thought was hell on earth. Don't give up, the results are seldom what we hope for, but years down the road, regardless of how things turn out, you know you did the right things. That's worth more than you know right now. Things have settled for me now, and while the kid is still a mess, i know i did all i could to help him. I now have time for some toys and things i always wanted.. and it is kinda nice. I feel for your situation, but you're seldom handed more than you can deal with, regardless of how it seems at the time. Best of luck to you. I hope you find some peace and contentment soon.