wife talkin divorce , prayers needed

[mullinax95]

well she was going to serve me papers tomorrow but after much talking she has decided to give us another go , she says lets see what happens till after ther the first of the year . So i guess the ball is in my court , @ least she has admitted to being at fault as well . Its time to step up my game and give it my all . Im quite familiar with the addiction side of things unfortunately . I had been clean and sober for 15 years until this injury & i know the pills brought back from the dead a lot of behaviors she had never seen in me.
So now this time around ive got to suck it up & live with the pain if i want to have a chance for this relationship to survive . I am not interested in living the life of a junkie .And i certainly dont want my kids growing up ashamed of me or not knowing me @ all . I thank God that @ least ive got some time to prove my love to her . I just hope she will fall in love with me again. Thank you everyone for your support

Well you know the road from addiction to recovery then. Thats good to know. Just keep in mind and you know what I'm fixing to say ..... stay sober for yourself not for the wife and kids. You put anything in front of sobriety you will lose it anyway. Good luck and remember go to a meeting if you're not going.... meeting makers make it.

 

[smlveightis]

Hang in there, things will get better. I feel your pain (in the lower back, that is!). Was to go out on medical retirement 8 years ago with damaged discs (L2, 3, 4, S1 & 2). Hopped up on opiates for over 6 months. Don't know how, but I got out of that funk, sounds like your on your way yourself! prayers to you and your family. Tomorrow, you will wake up, and the next day, and the next day, and so on. It might get worse before it gets better, but it always get better!

 

[Abodybomber]

Best of wishes,prayers sent.The lady needs communication,hopfully you 2 have turned the corner.

 

[74360duster]

im a recent divorce. i got cheated on. tried to fix it for months. no change. i filed.finished it. met a new gal that is even better and treats my kids even more awesome than there mother does. they want her as mom and not there real mom.i payed for the lawyer. we have joint 50-50 custody, no child suppport, i kept my house and all my cars. she kept all contents and her car. she pays the health insurance and we split there bills. works great and we get along great.
so hang in there.there is a bright side....

 

[Oklacarcollecto]

well she was going to serve me papers tomorrow but after much talking she has decided to give us another go , she says lets see what happens till after ther the first of the year . So i guess the ball is in my court , @ least she has admitted to being at fault as well . Its time to step up my game and give it my all . Im quite familiar with the addiction side of things unfortunately . I had been clean and sober for 15 years until this injury & i know the pills brought back from the dead a lot of behaviors she had never seen in me.
So now this time around ive got to suck it up & live with the pain if i want to have a chance for this relationship to survive . I am not interested in living the life of a junkie .And i certainly dont want my kids growing up ashamed of me or not knowing me @ all . I thank God that @ least ive got some time to prove my love to her . I just hope she will fall in love with me again. Thank you everyone for your support

How bad are you addicted to the opiates? If so is this a major issue in your marriage? Maybe you might need more than support that just quiting on you own. There are non-opiate meds the doctor can put you on to get off the opiates.I have seen what drugs can do to a marriage but I do understand your pain issues too. What has been done to correct you disc problems?Opiates won't fix you damaged back and if that is all they have been doing then you need another doctor NOW.

The bold statements above Xs2.

Prayers offered for the entire family.

You never did answer my first question on what has been done to fix your back? There are wonderful doctors in Tulsa. As a matter of fact the best one in the state is there based off my extensive research. I have a real bad back and he taught me a lot after extensive testing. While I will never get back to normal I am not about 50% better because of listening to him.

 

[SpikeWills69]

Praying for you both for grace and that you both do the right thing. PM sent.