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get the kids in your care, be nice and tell her you want to see them. take yourself and the kids down to the court house and file a motion for temporary custody , and they will give you a court date and serve her with papers, and get a lawyer in the mean time and go from there. if you dont, she will. if the kids are in your custody when you file the paperwork, she will have to wait for the judge to decide what is going to happen before she can see them. and.. the police cant do **** about it as long as you have the motion papers. been there, done that, im no lawyer , but i have been through this. be ready for a battle if she is anything like my ex
 
Most every attorney will give you a FREE consultation. Get as MUCH info together as possible in a file folder and take it with you. It's only free once.
 
When i got devorced back in 91. In Cal. My wife had custody of our daughter. I had open visitation rights. How ever. She could not take our daughter out of sate for a vacation or to relocate out of state with out my permision. That was Ca.back then and the devorce laws always lean towards the exwife. Can't say for now. All States are different. She will entitled to a prorated portion of your retiement.)Federal Law) and maybe part of your S.S.
Get a lawyer that will take your case for a flat fee. There out there... If not your lawyer fees will go through the roof and then some.
Bottom line GET a DAM GOOD LAWYER.....Keep in mind just about anyone can become a lawyer....
But not every lawyer is a good lawyer
 
i had my ex bounce to florida with my daughter. in the final orders, it was stated that, she could not leave El Paso county without my permission. she did anyway. my lawyer and the laws here state that unless she comes back to el paso county, there is nothing they can do or will do about it. its bullshit. you need to act before she physically leaves .
 
Good God,what a witch! Best of luck and I hope it all work's out !
 
Just finished a 12 year marriage and a 60,000.00 divorce and that number does not include child support for two childern. Get the best lawyer you can afford, but the courts don't favor the man. Show your childern as much love as possible. Good luck, you will need it
 
Sorry to hear that man.

My poor Brothers wife took their son back to Germany. Said she was just going to visit her Mom, then once she landed she told him she was staying and there was nothing he could do about it.
Took him 2 years and lawyers specializing in international law but he got his son back.
He lost about 100 pounds over the stress, was a sad sight.
It made international headlines for about 15 minutes.
 
I went thru a nasty one 8 years ago, about the only time a good hard kick in the nuts will make you feel better. My advice, ask around for a good lawyer, then interview 2 or 3. Your going to need the best one you can get. And don't fall for the being nice to her will help you in the courtroom way of thinking. Be respectful in front of your kids and don't talk sh*t about her if front of them, or let anyone else for that matter. If the kids aren't around when she is, I don't waste an ounce of oxygen even trying to speak with her. If possible, either set up a camera or have a friend over whenever your kids are around if they are younger, that way any BS that she makes up and coaches your kids to say will be refuted by more than just your word. I know that may seem ridiculous but let me just say that some women just go batsh*t crazy during these times and the more calm and collected you can stay the better off you will be. The monetary cost will be high but that can be replaced, it is the emotional and physical toll that will be the tough one to bear. If you are working a bunch of OT right now try and see if you can cut back or make it less regular otherwise they will figure that into your child support payments and then your are F'd when the OT runs out but your payment stays the same.

I wish you the best of luck and am truly sorry that anyone has to experience this.
 
73AbodEE said:
get the kids in your care, be nice and tell her you want to see them. take yourself and the kids down to the court house and file a motion for temporary custody , and they will give you a court date and serve her with papers, and get a lawyer in the mean time and go from there. if you dont, she will. if the kids are in your custody when you file the paperwork, she will have to wait for the judge to decide what is going to happen before she can see them. and.. the police cant do **** about it as long as you have the motion papers. been there, done that, im no lawyer , but i have been through this. be ready for a battle if she is anything like my ex
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Having been through this before and won custody of my kids, the quote above is the best advice. And to quote my attorney from my first divorce, "Son , What you have here is a legal emergency." you need to quietly lawyer up ASAP.
 
i should have worded that a little different, meaning that you dont have to physically take the kids into the court house with you ...just have them in your care and not hers when you file the paperwork. its now a race to the court house and you have to look at it that way. because like i said, she is thinking the same thing, and if you dont beat her to it, it will really suck and be that much more difficult to stop her

good luck man, i dont wish that **** on anyone...
 
Been there done that. Get a good lawyer and document everything from how much time your kids are with you right down to the money you spend on your kids when the are with you.
 
1wild, has custody been established already?

And if so, is it joint custody? Or does she have full custody?

ALWAYS GET AT LEAST JOINT CUSTODY, as this gives both parents rights to the children.
 
Having been through this more than once; TRUST ME- the best money you will ever spend will be for a good attorney right now. Money is replaceable, the time with your kids is not. As said before, the courts are biased towards women, but men can get custody if they can show a more stable environment for the kids. Good luck to you, this time in life really sucks but you can get through it. Lean on family/friends for support. Or if you just need to vent, pm me. I kmow where you're coming from.
 
I have custody of my kids, but luckily was never married to the *****! I wish you luck and if it was me I would find out what air line she is planning on flying and put a phony bomb threat in with her description. Women can be evil vicious a-holes and its time us good men and fathers feed it right back to them!

Good luck and sorry to hear about that.
 

skip the bomb threat that will not help (prolly hurt more IF FOUND OUT)
4spdragtop said:
I have custody of my kids, but luckily was never married to the *****! I wish you luck and if it was me I would find out what air line she is planning on flying and put a phony bomb threat in with her description. Women can be evil vicious a-holes and its time us good men and fathers feed it right back to them!

Good luck and sorry to hear about that.
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Awful news man. I hope she comes to her senses and realizes kids need their Daddies around.

The Hawaii Public School system should be reason enough for custody in this case.
 
I went through this about 11 years ago and would not wish it on anyone. Actually this is how I ended up in Utah, to be close to my daughter when the ex relocated on a whim. I don't have any advice, but wish the best for you and your kids. Hang in there.
 
And THIS is the REASON why I'll NEVER ever get married!!!
 
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