Maybe I'm a little confused.... where is dad at? I thought you was going to get him and his boys together to build the car.
I was (9 yrs ago) the dad you are trying to help. The problem with me before I sobered up was it was everyone's fault but mine. I drank to escape how I felt about myself. The lower I got the more I drank. I started laying out of work, letting the bills get behind, using everyone up, was going to get another DUI, started having health problems, and got to the point where I really didn't want to live any longer. I knew I was a alcoholic but did nothing to stop drinking. However we alcoholics don't necessary have to be the ones that you see laying around on the side of the roads or under bridges. I still had a job, a roof over my head, transportation, and a little money in my pocket. But on the inside I was dead and if I had not stopped drinking I would have surely been under that bridge at one time or another. For us alcoholics three things is bound to happen. One..... sober up, two..... locked up, three.... covered up. I choose sober up. I absolutely have nothing against people that drink.... I just know that I can't drink. When I drink it sets up in my mind a phenomenon of craving. Once that craving gets started it is very hard to stop so that first drink is what will kill me! Not the thousandth one but the first drink. I really hope you can help the dad but in real life however he will not stop drinking until he gets ready. Sometimes its to late and some of us die but some of us make it. I have been going to AA for 9 yrs now......... I have lost count of the people that have went back out and died as the result of drinking again. People that I have tried to help (sponsor) and people that was my friends!! I didn't get sober on the first try or the second but thank God I finally did or I might have died myself. We look at alcohol as a disease it's not a disease for those who can drink successfully but for us alcoholics it is a disease. Just like diabetes for example. He can get help if he wants by calling someone who is in AA or in the telephone book. That's what I did and I tell you..... that phone weighed a thousand pounds. Really I shouldn't even say he is a alcoholic only he can say that he is or not but the way it sounds alcohol is causing trouble in his life. I'm really not good on politics, certified mechanic, doctor, fireman, but one thing I do know all about is alcohol.
Bill I wish you all the luck/prayers in the world to help the guy.