Bigdummy
Not a Nova
If they don't talk to ya Birthdays and Christmas is cheaper on ya
We all feel unappreciated at times, a lot of the time even. But throughout the year when your kids do something you taught them... or use one of your sayings... or just generally act the way you raised them... that's fathers day for me.. forget all the hype of THAT one day a year. Draw pleasure from the things you did right all year. And forgive yourself for the stuff you really F'd up. We all did some of that too...
Sometimes, no matter how well the thought we did as a parent, it's seems like it's never good enough. I have a 25 year old son and a 19 year old daughter and have yet to hear from either of them today. I would like to say this surprises me, but it doesn't. It's the same story every year. When I think about what I have done for them, it really puzzles me as to why things turned out the way they did. I made it to every fooball practice, track practice, every game both home and away, countless dollars spent on my son. I took my daughter to every one of her color guard practices, band camp, competitions, etc. She is in college now and I have a generous amount of every paycheck loaded onto a visa card so she won't have to get a job while she is in school. She has never even said "thanks". I raised them both to be thoughtful and considerate, or at least I thought I did. Like I said, sometimes we can do our best and it's just not good enough. I will be surprised if I get so much as a text from either of them today. I'm going to spend my day working on my Dad's 69 Road Runner doing things to it that he has been wanting to do but isn't able anymore. He says he wants to get it back on the road so the can enjoy driving it before he goes to, in his words, the "Great Dragstrip In The Sky". I'm going to help him do just that!
Hi Y'all,
I feel like i am a sperm donor / cash register. My wife says i am important, but other than working my *** off to provide for my family i just dont see it.
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I know he's not my birth father but he's been the best father I could have asked for!! He came into my life and chose to help raise me. He could have said no and walked away but instead he stayed through all of the crap I put him through and chose to stick through it and love me!! I couldn't ask for a better person to have been sent to us!!! You help me with anything and everything I need it with!!!! I love you More than you know!!! Thank you for everything and happy Father's Day!!!
thank you for all you have done and always being there for me. i would not want it any different than it is right now. you mean so much to mom and i and i hope you never leave. you are the best guy a girl could ask for or have in her life. i love you and I'm lucky enough to get you.
. i called and wished somebody else s father a happy fathers day and not my own.
yea ....I can relate to that
I have found in life that your "father" doesn't always have to be the man you match DNA with.
I am not close to my birth dad and its for cultural reasons as well as choices made by him and me. I wont say anything bad about him nor disrespect or ever talk back to him because he did bring me into the world. Pretty much he lives his life and I live mine.
Back here on the ranch, the one I call my "adoptive" dad has been there for every high and low in my life since I was a teen. He is the cool mopar dad that supported with unconditional love and I am not even genetically related to him.
Its not fair that we cant change our DNA and it just is what it is.
Kids with numbers matching parents really have it lucky even though some don't see it that way.
I am glad I helped make someone else's Father's Day nice, though.
I waited on a customer and his son yesterday at work. Sold them a water pump and whatnot for his son's first car, a Nissan Frontier truck. They came back several more times getting this and that.....the last time to rent a couple of tools to make sure they could get the harmonic balancer off as they were also replacing the timing belt.
As they left, something just told me to give them one of my personal business cards. I don't "run a business" per say, but I do try to help the occasional person out, so I gave them one.
This morning about 8:15, Father's Day, on my day off, I got a call from the dad saying he was really in over his head with the timing belt and he needed help timing the engine back up. Less than two miles from me in a straight line, so I went over there and timed it up, put the belt on and stuck around to make sure everything was fine.
We got done and he would have it no other way than to give me some money for helping. It turned out good. We got done about lunch time and he had the rest of Father's Day to relax.
It is 8:15 PM here and still have not heard from my own son. I am glad I helped make someone else's Father's Day nice, though.
I waited on a customer and his son yesterday at work. Sold them a water pump and whatnot for his son's first car, a Nissan Frontier truck. They came back several more times getting this and that.....the last time to rent a couple of tools to make sure they could get the harmonic balancer off as they were also replacing the timing belt.
As they left, something just told me to give them one of my personal business cards. I don't "run a business" per say, but I do try to help the occasional person out, so I gave them one.
This morning about 8:15, Father's Day, on my day off, I got a call from the dad saying he was really in over his head with the timing belt and he needed help timing the engine back up. Less than two miles from me in a straight line, so I went over there and timed it up, put the belt on and stuck around to make sure everything was fine.
We got done and he would have it no other way than to give me some money for helping. It turned out good. We got done about lunch time and he had the rest of Father's Day to relax.
It is 8:15 PM here and still have not heard from my own son. I am glad I helped make someone else's Father's Day nice, though.
I waited on a customer and his son yesterday at work. Sold them a water pump and whatnot for his son's first car, a Nissan Frontier truck. They came back several more times getting this and that.....the last time to rent a couple of tools to make sure they could get the harmonic balancer off as they were also replacing the timing belt.
As they left, something just told me to give them one of my personal business cards. I don't "run a business" per say, but I do try to help the occasional person out, so I gave them one.
This morning about 8:15, Father's Day, on my day off, I got a call from the dad saying he was really in over his head with the timing belt and he needed help timing the engine back up. Less than two miles from me in a straight line, so I went over there and timed it up, put the belt on and stuck around to make sure everything was fine.
We got done and he would have it no other way than to give me some money for helping. It turned out good. We got done about lunch time and he had the rest of Father's Day to relax.
It is 8:15 PM here and still have not heard from my own son. I am glad I helped make someone else's Father's Day nice, though.
Well my wife is at work. She works nights on weekends as a drug and alcohol rehab nurse.
I have 4 kids, my oldest is in Florida visiting her half sister for a few weeks, and my middle 2 spent the weekend at grandmas.
It was refreshing for it to be just me and my son this weekend. He is 2&1/2. We played w blocks, and hot wheels cars, went to church this morning, then to Wendys for lunch. I just put him to bed, so i am now writing this.
The oldest of my middle 2 girls has attention deficit disorder, and oppositional defiant disorder. I think this is the biggest drain on my wife and i. We have her seeing a psychologist, and we also see this woman to help us with her. Still we take it day by day. Insanity in our home with this kid has become the new normal.
If you dont know what oppositional defiant disorder (O.D.D.) is?? Look it up. This goes beyond dealing with a bad kid. The normal punishments just dont work, and make **** worse. We tried the traditional parenting with this one, like we have with our other kids, it just makes it bad. So bad in fact my oldest wants to leave when she turns 18 because of all the crap with her younger sister.
Its like watching the exorcist in real life when she becomes unhinged. I am so jaded by it all now i would not be amazed if this kid spins her head completely around, and spits out green split pea soup. The outbursts and tantrums, the hatred and venom this kid spews out of her mouth directed at my wife, myself, our family when she is having an episode is epic. Then when she calms down she denies saying anything. I love her, but stuff like this makes it just so hard.
My other middle girl, on the other hand is very quiet, shy, and prefers to do quiet solitary activities. She and i recently completed a plastic model kit of a 70 road runner. She loves to sit and do stuff like model kits.
I do everything for my kids. In the end i feel unappreciated. All i want is a bit of time for myself, and to be able to enjoy the other aspects of my life i find enjoyable like my project car. So its not a case as one poster said about me being selfish, or another poster saying nobody put a gun to your head. Its called being able to decompress, or taking a breather, etc.
Sometimes its nice to have a bit of funds and time for yourself, to be able to enjoy other things in life. How many of you deny yourselves time to go shooting, hunting, fishing, or golfing, or any other manly type activities?? I wouldent dare try to walk a mile in anyone elses shoes. The crap we all deal with is different but sucky all the same.