Would any of you put up with this?

[TT5.9mag]

But she isn't

That’s exactly the point!
She doesn’t get to make the determination of what is important to someone else. One man’s (woman’s) trash is another man’s treasure. The paint job, or what she’s putting on it, is mute. It’s the ACT that is unacceptable.

 

[Glenguy]

Just me, but you are parking on their property and for some reason i personally don't find bedding and pillows offensive. I wouldn't have even said anything.

It's not hurting the car.

If anything that's a complement that the car is so clean she would put something as sacred as bedding from her sanctuary on it. She probably doesn't see her own car as clean enough.

Something that can damage the car like boxes of **** or anything else would be a problem but I just don't think a quilt and pillows is a biggie, just my .02.

Ideally she would use her own vehicle and you'd park on your own property but here we go, ideal usually never happens.

It's the principal of the thing that counts. Bedding can lead to other junk placed on the vehicle. It's the attitude of entitlement that needs to go.

 

[TT5.9mag]

It's the principal of the thing that counts. Bedding can lead to other junk placed on the vehicle. It's the attitude of entitlement that needs to go.

YES SIR!

 

[diymirage]

Renting is throwing money in the fire.

90 % of the time i agree with you, but there are times where renting simply makes sense

 

[RustyRatRod]

90 % of the time i agree with you, but there are times where renting simply makes sense

Yeah like if you somewhere temporary. That's about the only time.

 

[diymirage]

Yeah like if you somewhere temporary. That's about the only time.

yes sir, kid going of to college? rent
service member living off base? rent
pretty much any time you know you're not going to put down roots

when me and the wife first got married she was in college, and we knew she would be for another 3 years
so we rented

then as soon as she was done, we moved back into the town she grew up in and we bought our first house then
not to say we're the standard, but thats what made sense to us

 

[TT5.9mag]

90 % of the time i agree with you, but there are times where renting simply makes sense

Tangent;
I owned a property previously that had a house up front and a small ADU in the back. My mortgage was $3100/month. I charged $4000/month for the main house and I rented the adu back from my renters for $400/month. Net+$500 for me. Made sense.

 

[Princess Valiant]

Well, hopefully the parties involved can come to a peaceful, happy agreement.

As I said, I can see it both ways and I see bedding as a sacred thing that has nothing to do with random crap.

But I have painted my share of cars and I know what it is to labor for months to make a car shine.

So best wishes to the OP

 

[diymirage]

Tangent;
I owned a property previously that had a house up front and a small ADU in the back. My mortgage was $3100/month. I charged $4000/month for the main house and I rented the adu back from my renters for $400/month. Net+$500 for me. Made sense.

same thing happened with my old duplex
synopsis, we wanted to be able to take care of my inlaws but wanted them to have their own autonomy
i looked all over town and could not find a single decent multiple family home so i ended up buying a duplex
i put both families on the deed so i could homestead both sides

our mortgage was $1270, escrow and all
when we sold that the guy who bought it moved into one unit and rented the other side for $1475 a month
(this was 8 years ago)

 

[SpeedThrills]

She can't be too bright. I'm guessing that the cover isn't clean. That's what covers are for. To keep the dirt off.

But I would talk to her with her husband present. No, he said, she said baloney.

Calling the cops will ruin any chance of getting along in the future. I think we need to ask Dear Abby. lol

 

[Ottmundr]

The Christian thing to do would be to put up that clothes line, maybe bring a table for her to use.
I haven't been to church in awhile so I'd lean toward what is in post #s 2-3-4-8 and 12.

I don't try to get along with assholes. They take advantage of kindness, they overstep boundaries. i work at deliberately making their shitty behavior painful. Pain is the only motivation for some people. Directly confront them, and calmly explain that you will inflict pain until the behavior stops.

The Christ thing to do turn the tables over and throw the money launderers out of the temple.
Whip ber while you're at it.
If its good enough for Jesus...

 

[Kemper]

She can't be too bright. I'm guessing that the cover isn't clean. That's what covers are for. To keep the dirt off.

But I would talk to her with her husband present. No, he said, she said baloney.

Calling the cops will ruin any chance of getting along in the future. I think we need to ask Dear Abby. lol

If she doesn't remove her stuff from your car when asked you are already not getting along unless you continue to let her and say nothing about it. As someone else implied ,I wouldn't take the chance of letting her continue not knowing what else she may put on your car or what else she might do because she only sees it as an old car.

If you do nothing to address the problem you are neglecting your responsibility to protect your car putting you in the same position as her.

 

[BSB67]

As part of the renters agreement, who has the right to the parking spot in question? Are you using their spot?

She should not put stuff on your car, period…..

Maybe the OP missed these questions.

My guess is they are doing the OP a favor (at least in her mind) in letting you use their garage space, and if you piss them off your car is out of the garage and either on the street or you’re paying $100/month storage somewhere.

She should not store stuff on your car, and you need to tell her, or simply move your car.

 

[Kemper]

She can't be too bright. I'm guessing that the cover isn't clean. That's what covers are for. To keep the dirt off.

But I would talk to her with her husband present. No, he said, she said baloney.

Calling the cops will ruin any chance of getting along in the future. I think we need to ask Dear Abby. lol

You may be right ,but if protecting the car is just as or more important than catering to her wants , I wouldn't give her a second chance after asking her.

 

[RustyRatRod]

If the car is parked on the street side, anyone has "permission" to park, since it's the county right of way. So you don't need permission. Even if it's directly in front of THEIR house. Just because they "think" that spot is theirs, doesn't mean it is. Usually, the county right of way for a two lane road is 60 feet. That's 30 feet each way from the center line. That usually includes some shoulder, or sidewalk, whichever. I find it hilarious that she bitched to you about not having "permission" to move her laundry off YOUR car, but no one ever "permission" to put the laundry there. IMO, you have a case for vandalism. If she does it again, I'd get a police report.

 

[RustyRatRod]

Just me, but you are parking on their property and for some reason i personally don't find bedding and pillows offensive. I wouldn't have even said anything.

It's not hurting the car.

If anything that's a complement that the car is so clean she would put something as sacred as bedding from her sanctuary on it. She probably doesn't see her own car as clean enough.

Something that can damage the car like boxes of **** or anything else would be a problem but I just don't think a quilt and pillows is a biggie, just my .02.

Ideally she would use her own vehicle and you'd park on your own property but here we go, ideal usually never happens.

I believe he said it was in the street. Maybe I got that wrong.

 

[Kemper]

I normally would try harder to work with someone . But if someone doesn't think it should be an issue to place something on someone's car that they know the person cares about, I would think it a waste of time to try to reason with her. Call the police and get it taken care of if she isn't being helpful.

Doesn't mean you have to worry about getting along with her in the future. Just tell her your position and invite her over for a barbecue if she wants to discuss your reasoning . It would be up to her is she cared about having a friendly relationship without you letting her put her **** on your car.

Does she have a dog ? That makes it a whole new ballgame for me cause I like them puppies. I would not risk my relationship with the puppy if it knew me and I petted it, gave it a treat or talked to it when out. May not be worth that, but I haven't seen the car.

 

[abodyjoe]

i'd have talked to her nicely at first and asked her not to do it going foward. after that she **** would be thrown in the dirt.

 

[BSB67]

If the car is parked on the street………

I don’t think that is the case, but I don’t know either way. The OP has been quiet about these details

 

[Kemper]

i'd have talked to her nicely at first and asked her nt tot do it going foward. after that she **** woudl be thrown in the dirt.

If she has a puupy , the puppy is likely to take her side and not take kindly to that . At least not on the surface , She/he may be more reasonable than her but throwing their bed linens in the dirt you may cause harm ( albeit minimal ) to someone that had no control over what was happening.

 

[RustyRatRod]

I don’t think that is the case, but I don’t know either way. The OP has been quiet about these details

I went back and looked and all he said was "parked out front". I assumed in the street. Either way, even if it's parked on their property, it ain't a clothes dryer and it ain't right for them to use it that way. Even if it's not painter all purdy, it still ain't right.

 

[jos51700]

But she isn't

That’s exactly the point!
She doesn’t get to make the determination of what is important to someone else. One man’s (woman’s) trash is another man’s treasure. The paint job, or what she’s putting on it, is mute. It’s the ACT that is unacceptable.

This.

Tangent;
I owned a property previously that had a house up front and a small ADU in the back. My mortgage was $3100/month. I charged $4000/month for the main house and I rented the adu back from my renters for $400/month. Net+$500 for me. Made sense.

You know I respect you, but I just can't picture this. Living in Cali must be pants on head retarded. $4000 a month? For real?

 

[BSB67]

I went back and looked and all he said was "parked out front". I assumed in the street. Either way, even if it's parked on their property, it ain't a clothes dryer and it ain't right for them to use it that way. Even if it's not painter all purdy, it still ain't right.

Of course it’s not right. But the details we don’t have matter in how he should handle it.

 

[Princess Valiant]

I can't wait till my demon is nice enough to dry my bedding on it

And to you guy's point, if I did it, it would MY bedding on MY car, because that is the correct answer on how it should be.

I also appreciate those of you who said you would have been nice to her on the first contact about it. That's gentleman, but if she persists, then that is truly on her

 

[Desoto291hemi]

If they are All renters,,,why would Husband give permission to park anywhere ?
Are they assigned parking spots ?

If not,,,,you have as much right as anyone to park there .

Tommy