Whats the deal with all the single Moms?

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wjaholic

wjaholic

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My Fiance and I split up about 4 months ago. We had been together for years and I never really paid attention to other women my age. I honestly thought things were going to go differently. But, that is in the past and I have moved on.

I have been hanging out with friends that I haven't seen in years. I have been trying to meet as many new people as I can. Essentially, I am trying to get out from under the rock I have been under for years.

I keep meeting all these women my age (27ish) that have a kid (or kids) and no sign of a husband, fiancee, or steady boyfriend. A single Mom. How sad is that? :wack:

Was it like this 20 or 30 years ago? What happened?
 
Of the 2 I was at the beach with yesterday;

1 I have known since 15. Her now "X" simply didn't pay attention to her, was devoid of outwardlt showing compassion or happiness. Often brutish and course. His main thing was video games to the extreme. At 40+, this is weird in my book. The worst was he kept telling and yelling her to stop cheating on her. Which I know never happened.

She dumped him. 3 kids, 2 stay at home, 3rd grown up.

The 2nd one never seen her husband. He choose to work and spend his money elsewhere. 3 kids from him. Now the worse thing happened, she had another cgild by another man of for which she threw out since he became a do nothing sponge at her house. It was one thing to have an issue with the bottle, but over the top when he refused o work. He's done and out on his ***.

At least this women (30) went back to school and got a degree while keeping all the kids well feed, clothed and happy under her roof. How the hell she makes all them dang PTA meetings and things is beyound me.

Women wont stick around (For the most part anyway...) with a lazy, unloving or unresponsive inattentive man at there side. They have all said to me, "Why waste time with dead wood?"

They also stated, they lack "Fun time and a good laff" This basicly leaves them alone with everything. And what fun can that be?
 
MtNemoMopar said:
At least you know they "do it" #-o:mrgreen:
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Lol.

Can't beat a good milf!

I was reading an article lately that over 40% of all births are from unwed mothers. My (in)significant other and I are in the same boat. We live together as roommates for the sake of our 2 year old. Luckily we still get along.. for now. I predict a change in scenery soon, though.

The nice thing about being a single Dad is you can relate to the single mother scenario..... = brownie points.
 
I'm 60, dated and even married 3 single moms. Nothing worked out. A kid raised with no father will drive you insane.
 
I won't have nothing to do with them. I will not take care of somebody elses kid(s) regardless of how nice the mother is. Here in the state of Washington if you live with a single mother and her child for 6 months, they can legally come after you for child support (which they do a lot up here) just by going to court saying you have bonded with the child. There is also the fact that the vast majority of females here are fat, lazy people and the good looking ones are way to stuck up and have no real skills to survive in the real world.
 
There is also the fact that the vast majority of females here are fat, lazy people and the good looking ones are way to stuck up and have no real skills to survive in the real world
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Oh, come on now...tell us what you really think!!!....LOL... :)
 
In my experience single moms usually fit 1 of 2 categories with very few exceptions:

1) She hooked up with a guy that had a few flaws, but she found him exciting and figured she could fix him. She may or may not have married him, but she just knew he'd make a great father (never mind that he kept saying he didn't want kids), a couple of kids later he dumps her or she leaves him because he wouldn't give up the drinking, pot, other women, etc.
2) She met a guy and had a kid with him thinking he would marry her and big surprise, he split instead.
It takes a special guy to be a father, the responsibility is awesome and fatherhood should be entered into freely and without coercion. The cure for the epidemic of single motherhood will come with an effective male birth control pill. Once that happens, every child born will be wanted by both parents.
Single mothers tend to be serial offenders and if you hook up with one you'd better realize that you'll never come first in her life.

.....and no I'm not bitter, just a realist.
 
how about you girls just keep your legs and mouth closed? i think that would work better, make him work for it for a change dont just go omg hes hot and screw him, keep em closed and how about guys quit getting girls drunk and taking advantage of them? can we try that instead. theres a whole bunch of things i could say on this subject cause my friend has 3 kids from different fathers and all of them dead beats. and all of the stories start with well we started drinking, its really quite sad. i know a girl whos 16 and prego, shell never graduate high school let alone go to college for something other than just general extra education.
 
macho781988 said:
how about you girls just keep your legs and mouth closed? i think that would work better, make him work for it for a change dont just go omg hes hot and screw him, keep em closed and how about guys quit getting girls drunk and taking advantage of them? can we try that instead. theres a whole bunch of things i could say on this subject cause my friend has 3 kids from different fathers and all of them dead beats. and all of the stories start with well we started drinking, its really quite sad. i know a girl whos 16 and prego, shell never graduate high school let alone go to college for something other than just general extra education.
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Then what would you do for fun?
 
I see more and more women saying they have no use for men, they get their life to the point that they can support themselves, get the kids on the way to "out" and don't seem to want men around, at least not long term.
 
Then again there are the ones who will get into a relationship and find it getting stale after a period of time and some of them (even with kids involved) will play the abused spouse and in some states all they have to say to a LEO is "He hit me" and off to jail the husband/boyfriend goes. At this point the man loses most of his rights in the eyes of the court and usually gets nothing except misery.
 
1 out of a 100 women are considered normal/sane:mrgreen:. I finally found a normal/sane/beautiful one.O:) Going on 18 years now, my brothers, and each day gets better. MMG,
 
And then you have the women who get married and have a kid or 2 for the money, collect a check for the next 18 years like a lottery winner. Sad but very true, I know a Guy married 2 years 1 kid and pays a $1,000 a week, YES a week for 1 kid??

Welcome to PA...
 
HAUK67 said:
And then you have the women who get married and have a kid or 2 for the money, collect a check for the next 18 years like a lottery winner. Sad but very true, I know a Guy married 2 years 1 kid and pays a $1,000 a week, YES a week for 1 kid??

Welcome to PA...
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Yes, I know what you're talking about. I paid child support for 18 years and my Son never had much because she spent it all on clothes and things for herself. The problem is that the courts don't care how the mother spends the money and that's wrong. There should be more accountability for the money sent for child support. MMG
 
1970Duster said:
I won't have nothing to do with them. I will not take care of somebody elses kid(s) regardless of how nice the mother is. Here in the state of Washington if you live with a single mother and her child for 6 months, they can legally come after you for child support (which they do a lot up here) just by going to court saying you have bonded with the child. There is also the fact that the vast majority of females here are fat, lazy people and the good looking ones are way to stuck up and have no real skills to survive in the real world.
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man are you sure you havn't been to my area?
 
65Val said:
Oh, come on now...tell us what you really think!!!....LOL... :)
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Can't it would be against the rules!:twisted: That was the 15 minute think about it and post in a "clean" way, version.
 
Hey Everybody, It's called BEING A SPONSOR !!!!! If you have ever done this for a women more than once...... you must like punishment!!!! I have a good friend that is in this situation, his kids growed up already but is now providing a sponsorship to another women. I know he must be thinking with his middle leg, I've tryed talking to him but it go's in one ear and out the other. He does'nt get any anyway!! He work's hard but never has money to work on his car's. She take's off on the weekends and so on and leaves the kids there to watch without asking and just use's him all the time. Just maybe he will learn someday.:butthead:
 
Chicks go after the cute guys that are real assholes and it never works out once the kids come and the real work starts so do yourself a favor like my Wife did and marry an ugly guy....done.
 
I've done some thinking on this subject since I first saw it and i think it can be summed up in one word - respect. Respect for your elders, your peers, and the next generation. There are a lot of people in my generation that were not raised to respect authority figures - either their parents, teachers, boss, themselves, others in general. That goes also for a lot in my parents generation - yes the Baby Boomers (ie Stick it to the Man and Question Authority) While there is a place for these ideas, there also has to be respect for authority - or else society will not function. If you don't respect the people around you, you won't see the need (have the responsibility) to stick around and clean up your messes - for the purpose of this thread, the children you create with some one else. If you don't show respect to the other person involved then the children created will not learn it either and the cycle repeates itself.

It has come to be too easy to leave your responsibilities behind (Children, relationships, marriage, debts, etc) and start anew in search of a better life - pick your own reason, and the mother ends up, normally, keeping the kids. Can't deny that maternal bond - she did have them growing inside her for a good part of a year after all.

And people wonder why our schools are so messed up (No respect for the teachers because the kids were not taught respect at home), and then why the kids are not ready for college, and then cannot find a good paying job, etc...

You could also call it a lack of committment...

That's my two cents worth...
 
People are too selfesh today and lack what it takes for a long term relationship. Sex is an open issue and is exploited in just about everything we see in our daily lives. There are no more family values ,morals, code of ethics. Now days women get pregnet and don't want to raise a child and a dead beat boy freind. Babies raising babies. Yes things were different 30 years ago. My wife and I will be married 36 yrs this Sept, Easy .. No, hard ships along the way..yes. Still in love with her? very much.
 
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