"hi, when the valves are in the overlap stroke is where you do not want exh outflowing the intake. the exh will pull some of the intake charge out,and burn it ,therefore the headers turn red."
I dont think that's really true. In fact, if that were the case, batch fired V-8 fuel injected engines would routinely melt things, because on every firing cycle one cylinder's valves are open when the injector fires. What turns headers hot is high exh gas temps and a beneficial lack of thermal transfer. More heat in the exh means more power out of the cylinder, because less heat energy is being absorbed by the piston, exh valve and port walls. The other reason would be lean mixtures that will cause temps in the chamber way up and the result is is more heat into the exh system.
" plus, the cylinder does not get a full fill."
Cylinder filling is a result of a combination of things. Fluid dynamics, pressure wave tuning and inertia, thermodynamics, port and cylinder physical shape and material, cam timing, stroke and rod length, fuel type...What you describe above is scavenging effects of inertia. That is nothing but a plus or bonus in an engine of any type.
" flow curve is more important then the big peak number."
I agree whole heartedly to that one.