Ive been there, twice to be exact. With kids involved its always a LOT harder. Its for sure not going to be easy, especially at first. I know for me it felt like I lost everything- family, everyday life, identity, and somedays even my will to go on. My kids really where what forced to me to keep it together as much as I did. I always valued being a father and everything that goes along with it, but I think I did even more so when I suddenly didnt get to see them everyday. It was , and still is, hard when its time for them to go back to their mothers house. But I can promise you that it WILL get better. Its a very long process and sometimes it may seem like you are going backwards instead of moving forward. Little by little things will start to fall into place. Accepting that they are falling into a DIFFERENT place because your life isnt the same may be uncomfortable, but try and see it as a chance to get your life on the track that you want it from here on out. If you havent been through it yet you will probably see that your emotions about the divorce will change from being mad at her, at yourself, sad for your daughter, pissed that you dont get as much time with her, etc etc. Thats just normal so dont think you are losing it. I wish I could just tell you that it will all be fine, and that 1 day you will just wake up and everything will be rosey but that would be a lie. But I can tell you that 1 day you will wake up and look back at this time and see that you have made a lot of progress. And some time later you will look back again see how much further you have come. Try and keep your head up, but also dont hold back when you need to break down. Dont buy into the macho "real men dont cry". Bottling it up will just delay the innevitable and make it worse when you do let it out. This is just how it was for me and lord knows I hope that its easier for you. Im am an extremely private person when it comes to this kind of stuff, but I just had to respond after reading your post. Keeping yourself busy now is an excellent idea. I think the saying goes, an idle mind can be ones worst enemy. So finding anything that keeps you occupied should help you keep your sanity. I might suggest that you maybe talk to a counselor, Dr., or clergy member if you are religious. Getting things off your chest usually seems to lift the burdens we carry. Im not a counselor or an expert by any means but if you ever need someone to talk to, or vent to, just let me know. I wish all the best in dealing with this. Take each day as it comes and know that it will get better even if it doesnt happen as fast as you may like. Best of luck!!