Depression

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I can't believe out of all the people we have in this group that there is not a psychology major or someone in the field on this forum....I guess you have to be a little crazy to love abodies.
 
I was in darkness when I lost my wife 4 months ago, and am still fighting HARD to
move forward.
DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!
GOD bless everyone here.
Darryl
 
Bless you too Darryl. Your going thru a trying time that i hope most of us will never have to go thru.
 
monook said:
I was in darkness when I lost my wife 4 months ago, and am still fighting HARD to
move forward.
DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!
GOD bless everyone here.
Darryl
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I know you have had to endure a lot of pain and sadness Darryl. Prayers have been with you. I would hate to think what I would go through if I lost my wife.
 
dustermaniac said:
I keep my faith in God and will trust in him to bring me through the stormI.
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Tom your comment reminds me of the story I don't remember it exactly but it goes something like this.

Someone was going thru a bad time in there life and when he prayed to god for help he said lord it is written ask and you shall receive.when he never got the help he requested and passed away, his first question to god was I asked for help and you never responded why?

God said.
I did thru the offer of help from others you just never saw it.
 
monook said:
I was in darkness when I lost my wife 4 months ago, and am still fighting HARD to
move forward.
DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!
GOD bless everyone here.
Darryl
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God bless you as you move forward in life, my prayers go out for you and
your many family and friends.... So glad to see you posting and keeping your love in your hart....... I could not imagine the strength it takes to deal with such a loss
 
I still say whiskey. When youre as toasted as me you could givwe a rats *** what people think so youre not depressed. lol i,m buggered up right now too. Glad i cant find my car.
 
Well, you got the soba shifting good again. That's gotta make you feel a little better?!
 
Thank you Everyone for the kind words (makes me feel good).
I saw the Thread (depression) and wanted to help out.
Some bad people do good ,some good people do bad.
I think that is wrong, Good people do good, and bad people do bad.
Dustermaniac I would accept help from good people (help your family
get through this hard time) and do not feel guilty of it.
You have to do what you have to do.
Depression is very serious Cliff ,You hit it on the head by posting it, and now
to work at it. Me I get hit every day with it and take a deep breath then try to
do a normal schedule and add different things as not to make daily routines boring.
Be STRONG and fight it, don't let it win.
Darryl
 
Dear all,

For those of you who feel depressed, I feel your pain. For those of you who live with someone who is depressed; God love you, don't get sucked into it. This is a serious issue that hits home for me. I rarely speak out about it, but I have been treated for depression for over 25 years. When I quit taking meds, the depression comes back. I've quit twice over last the ten year period and regretted it five or six months later. The condition for me is chronic. I've tried a bunch of different medications over this time and seen a number of psychologists and psychiatrists.

But this isn't about me, it's about those of you who are touched by this condition. First the bad news. The professionals and the medications that can be used to treat this condition are not cheap. Thankfully, once a med regime the works is found, you don't need to see the doc as often.

Now for the good news. The condition is treatable both through professionals and "self-help".

  1. Of the meds I have taken, Lithium Carbonate gives the most bang for the buck. It's a mood enhancer. Maximum recommended dose is 30 mg a day. A 30-day supply for me at a Wal-mart pharmacy is $6.00. You need a prescription. Unless, you live near Saratoga Springs, NY where the compound is in the natural springs around there. Do not attempt to overdose on this stuff.
  2. On the non-prescription side of things, St. Johns Wort has the most documentation as an anti-depressant. This can be complemented by taking Ginseng. These two can be found in a nutrition store like GNC. Both have demonstrated effectiveness in mild to moderate depression. If the case of depression is severe, you should see a doc so that meds can be prescribed.
  3. Exercise produces a natural mood enhancer (also a natural anti-histamine). For exercise to work, the heart rate needs to be elevated for about 30 minutes. (Sorry, going over to the blue forum and mousing around will not get the job done). Plan on sweating if you're not in a pool.
  4. Tell yourself the truth. No pity parties! What lies are you believing that are contributing to your sense of worthlessness and failure? Our brains are like computers, garbage in, garbage out. There is a book, Telling Yourself the Truth by William Backus, that I highly recommend. You can get it from Amazon in paperback for $3.50 plus S&H.
  5. Be social. Clean up and go out with your significant other for a short outing. Don't hold people at arm's length. Don't be afraid to let your friends know you're feeling depressed. You don't need to wear a sign saying you're depressed. If one of your friends was feeling depressed, wouldn't it help you deal with them? Why are your friends any different?
This list is not comprehensive or exhaustive by any means. These are the highlights of things that have helped me as I wrestle with chronic depression.

Whoever you are, you can come to an accommodation with chronic depression, or beat depression that has got you in a strangle hold. You can do this.


Best wishes to all.
 
You could go up to a friends house and shoot the snit with him when hes working on a house lol . Crank up some tunes do alittle air Geeeetare !
 
monook said:
Thank you Everyone for the kind words (makes me feel good).
I saw the Thread (depression) and wanted to help out.
Some bad people do good ,some good people do bad.
I think that is wrong, Good people do good, and bad people do bad.
Dustermaniac I would accept help from good people (help your family
get through this hard time) and do not feel guilty of it.
You have to do what you have to do.
Depression is very serious Cliff ,You hit it on the head by posting it, and now
to work at it. Me I get hit every day with it and take a deep breath then try to
do a normal schedule and add different things as not to make daily routines boring.
Be STRONG and fight it, don't let it win.
Darryl
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Darryl, this posts tells me a lot.

Cliff, depression is a different thing for different people. The triggers can be different, whether it be external influences or internal. We all have those tipping points in our lives where things aren't right and we can't make 'em right - at least in the short term. It's the acceptance of that, which sometimes helps us recognize what's going on and how to deal with it.

The internal forces, though, if that's what they are, need to be addressed with medical professionals.

It's the external forces that I'm gonna talk about, though, having a little bit of experience in that area.

I'd experienced depression before in my life. Usually when I get depressed, it pisses me off. That anger leads to determination. The determination gets me motivated to do all the things that'd I put off, or taking care of those things that seem insurmountable. But that's me. I can't speak for everyone.

That is, until about four months ago. Ya'll know the story. I thought I was losing my mind. It was something I couldn't pull myself out of, know matter how hard I tried. This was something I didn't know if I wanted to pull myself out of. I wanted to die, too. This was different.

My family saw it. My friends saw it. Our buddy on here - and one helluva friend to me, 3404speed, Mr. John Heath - gave me a call to take care of a couple of things that his mom needed done. I went with him. He later admitted to me that if I didn't agree to go, I was going anyway as he was going to drag me out of the house by the collar of my shirt if he needed to.

Don't discount your friends, Cliff. Sometimes they see things in us that we don't see in ourselves. Sometimes they see things we need that we don't recognize. Just a change of scenery, a light conversation on the phone, sitting and having a few laughs can help.

You chime in on every prayer thread, Cliff. I'll take it to say you're a Believer. Depression can get in our way with our connection with God.

My best friend is sitting next to me as I write this. She's a depressed young woman at times. Things have been coming hot and heavy at her lately. External stresses that she feels she can't control.

She's gone to church with me a couple of times. She's sat and listened to me witness to her about where Sarah is. Today is the 16th anniversary of her brother's day of birth...and her brother's day of death. She's heard me talk about where her brother is...even though she didn't quite accept it.

Until the other day. She was depressed. She was angry at everything and that was making her more depressed. And she heard God speak to her. Literally. She was walking on cloud nine after that. She understood everything that's in her life isn't her's to control, but part of His plan for her. And she got a glimpse of the idea that Plan is about His glory, not ours.

Sometimes, Cliff, we need to quiet ourselves, those of us who Believe, and let God speak. We say our prayers and expect Him to listen. We forget to do the same thing. Our prayers should be our marching orders for the day. Open ourselves up and listen to what He has to say to us. Let Him touch us and guide us.
 
Old Tired Rebal, there are alot of things that can set it off I take the drugs the wife says i am a different person, thing that can help one is get a dog something about an animal around helps, go for walks with the dog. I wish i could say more but every one is different and needs to be treated different
 
Thanks Robert your post is well written,and I understand everything you are saying. But sometimes it's hard to hear things when other things are in the way.
 
rlevs said:
Old Tired Rebal, there are alot of things that can set it off I take the drugs the wife says i am a different person, thing that can help one is get a dog something about an animal around helps, go for walks with the dog. I wish i could say more but every one is different and needs to be treated different
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I have a 5 year old GSD I cannot walk him,my back and hip won't let me but he is beside me everyday and gets mad if I have to leave home. I don't get out much,I don't see that changing much at all for now.
 
First off it really sucks. I suffer from Depression and have for awhile now. The main thing that buggs me the most..........Is not knowing why. I have a great wife, great kids, a good job. Nice house And a retreat..Trailer. Honestly nothing to get me down. BUT:banghead: Theres something. I dont know how, when or why it started. That bugs me the most. If i did i could try and change it but i cant because i dont know. 75mg of effexor is what i take. **** i still have bad days but i wounder what they would be like if i wasnt on Meds. Talking about it and saying you are is a great step bud.I didnt want to admitt it for along time.I have great support and as you can see you have it here too. Meds do help and dont think any less of yourself if you need them. My friend thats why we have em. Right now im down more because of my dam back and cant do anything. All i say to myself is..I can only do what i can do. If theres anyone bringing you down......NEXT. Say BYE BYE. Lifes to short and YOU ARE WAY TO IMPORTANT to be down all the time. Were here for you and im only a PM away.
 
Nite Moves said:
First off it really sucks. I suffer from Depression and have for awhile now. The main thing that buggs me the most..........Is not knowing why. I have a great wife, great kids, a good job. Nice house And a retreat..Trailer. Honestly nothing to get me down. BUT:banghead: Theres something. I dont know how, when or why it started. That bugs me the most. If i did i could try and change it but i cant because i dont know. 75mg of effexor is what i take. **** i still have bad days but i wounder what they would be like if i wasnt on Meds. Talking about it and saying you are is a great step bud.I didnt want to admitt it for along time.I have great support and as you can see you have it here too. Meds do help and dont think any less of yourself if you need them. My friend thats why we have em. Right now im down more because of my dam back and cant do anything. All i say to myself is..I can only do what i can do. If theres anyone bringing you down......NEXT. Say BYE BYE. Lifes to short and YOU ARE WAY TO IMPORTANT to be down all the time. Were here for you and im only a PM away.
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I hate to say I may have to find a doctor and go back on meds. The reason I am trying to avoid it I take too many pills now as it is and there are people that take many more pills than I do. Like you I don't know what caused mine 10 years ago.
 
Dart_Doctor said:
You could go up to a friends house and shoot the snit with him when hes working on a house lol . Crank up some tunes do alittle air Geeeetare !
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Thanks for the offer Asa but right now I can't.
 
I have read and re read all of the post here. If I have this right,If I can find something to do that will keep my mind off of the depression I am going through that will help correct?
 
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