Stop in for a cup of coffee

[dukeboy440]

I hate to say this but they need to be reported.

Yeah don't really wanna open that can I don't think

Oh man.
You do have a major dilemma.
Good on you to take care of the kids. Where would they be without you. Bless your heart.

fixed
is this the sis that was screwin around? Man you got some drama.

Yes it is that same sister in law. She's now come back home after her lover had a random heart attack and died one day at work.

There is a toll free and confidential number you can call to report this Chris. And then they can wonder who reported them.

hmmm that's not a bad option. I'll have to find it and think on it

 

[zkx14]

Memikie don't do Drama ether

Less drama, more coffee

 

[dukeboy440]

wow such a LONG time ago

 

[Mattax]

I asked him if he would ship it we shall see, way to far to drive.

That 'splains the price. IMO it's fair for Dana, but with shipping/travel, might not be worth it for reselling.

 

[dartnabout]

Yeah don't really wanna open that can I don't think



Yes it is that same sister in law. She's now come back home after her lover had a random heart attack and died one day at work.
hmmm that's not a bad option. I'll have to find it and think on it

Should be in your phonebook

 

[dartnabout]

Clones!

 

[dartnabout]

Sorry Chris...bad joke. Thanks for your service.

 

[Mopar Tim]

Morning all

 

[toolmanmike]

Morning Tim

 

[dukeboy440]

All good. But don't thank me, thank those in Arlington

Sorry Chris...bad joke. Thanks for your service.

 

[dukeboy440]

Morning lefty

Morning all

 

[Mopar Tim]

Waiting on a Member, picking up axles and brakes.

 

[Mattax]

Good on you to take care of the kids

Totally agree.

drive a 2016 Dodge Ram 3/4

That may not mean a heck of alot - people can 'own' things on credit they can't afford. Sometimes its more show than go. Of course if everything was done up and up, what was that credit based on...? or is it leased? (no answer needed - just pointing out both sides of the question)

caught smoking pot on the last camping trip

Looking like cash was available... to say nothing of the parenting. Kids know..

screwin around? Man you got some drama

think I'm going to start a huge fight with my in law

...

as nothing will come of it

This is the really tough part for you and your family. Both you and your wife know a big drama blowout won't solve anything - and can make your own home unpleasant. Keeping it in and doing nothing doesn't solve anything and is going to eat away at you, and does nothing for the kids. (plus your wife probly still cares about her sis)

Hoppy's suggestion is one route. If you and yours can figure out a non-drama strategy, it probably won't be a one shot, but a chipping away. Think about what the end results will look like; the ones you want, the ones that might happen, and the ones they may want. The last is important because if they they are going to be a part of it, they got to be motivated. Otherwise you're only strategy is going to be along the lines of what Hoppy said.

 

[Mopar Tim]

Totally agree.
That may not mean a heck of alot - people can 'own' things on credit they can't afford. Sometimes its more show than go. Of course if everything was done up and up, what was that credit based on...? or is it leased?
Looking like cash was available... to say nothing of the parenting. Kids know..

...

This is the really tough part for you and your family. Both you and your wife know a big drama blowout won't solve anything - and can make your own home unpleasant. Keeping it in and doing nothing doesn't solve anything and is going to eat away at you, and does nothing for the kids. (plus your wife probly still cares about her sis)

Hoppy's suggestion is one route. If you and yours can figure out a non-drama strategy, it probably won't be a one shot, but a chipping away. Think about what the end results will look like; the ones you want, the ones that might happen, and the ones they may want. The last is important because if they they are going to be a part of it, they got to be motivated. Otherwise you're only strategy is going to be along the lines of what Hoppy said.

I will call!!!

 

[dukeboy440]

Totally agree.
That may not mean a heck of alot - people can 'own' things on credit they can't afford. Sometimes its more show than go. Of course if everything was done up and up, what was that credit based on...? or is it leased? (no answer needed - just pointing out both sides of the question)
Looking like cash was available... to say nothing of the parenting. Kids know..

...

This is the really tough part for you and your family. Both you and your wife know a big drama blowout won't solve anything - and can make your own home unpleasant. Keeping it in and doing nothing doesn't solve anything and is going to eat away at you, and does nothing for the kids. (plus your wife probly still cares about her sis)

Hoppy's suggestion is one route. If you and yours can figure out a non-drama strategy, it probably won't be a one shot, but a chipping away. Think about what the end results will look like; the ones you want, the ones that might happen, and the ones they may want. The last is important because if they they are going to be a part of it, they got to be motivated. Otherwise you're only strategy is going to be along the lines of what Hoppy said.

I hear ya. Trust me when I say it's not a money availability issue but a money choice issue.

 

[Mattax]

If you and yours can figure out a non-drama strategy, it probably won't be a one shot, but a chipping away.

Probably a bit of good cop/bad cop. There will be no way to totally avoid confronting the problems. Do it in a way that will most likely get the message across. Things like inviting them to do stuff, and then lay out the ground rules. Know what your going to do for their expected responses so it doesn't become a big blow out. Ton of work. Find some support groups with people who have been through similar.

 

[Mattax]

I hear ya. Trust me when I say it's not a money availability issue but a money choice issue.

I believe ya. I'm sure you see plenty of clues..

 

[360DartGT66]

Well i think I'm going to start a huge fight with my in laws today. The last two days now, we have our niece and nephew over. Now every time they come over, they are absolutely hungry. So we make supper or order a pizza etc. well yesterday my wife finally asked the oldest, who's ten, why they are always so hungry. He told us that his parents (my in laws) , don't ever make supper or anything. Said the only time they eat is at school. Now this isn't from money issues, the fuckers drive a 2016 Dodge Ram 3/4. Its pure laziness and yes this is the sister in law we caught smoking pot on the last camping trip. I've had about all I can take of them. Wife doesn't want me saying anything as nothing will come of it or fix it but good God, I don't think I can keep my mouth shut much longer

Most people put food on their kids's table before pretty much everything else. It sounds like they need to grow up or face the authorities real fast.

 

[360DartGT66]

Yes it is that same sister in law. She's now come back home after her lover had a random heart attack and died one day at work.

Wow. That's serious karma.

 

[360DartGT66]

What did you ever do to be hit with all this crap, Chris? Seizures, inlaws, seized drums ...

 

[dukeboy440]

What did you ever do to be hit with all this crap, Chris? Seizures, inlaws, seized drums ...

I have no freaking clue man. I've always lived by the be nice and respectful to others. Don't steal, don't cheat, etc

Maybe I need to start going back to church

 

[dukeboy440]

What did you ever do to be hit with all this crap, Chris? Seizures, inlaws, seized drums ...

And honestly, the inlaws thing doesn't truly involve me. I've done really well staying out of that drama. I just get sucked in when it comes to those two kids.

 

[Mopar-Man]

Well i think I'm going to start a huge fight with my in laws today. The last two days now, we have our niece and nephew over. Now every time they come over, they are absolutely hungry. So we make supper or order a pizza etc. well yesterday my wife finally asked the oldest, who's ten, why they are always so hungry. He told us that his parents (my in laws) , don't ever make supper or anything. Said the only time they eat is at school. Now this isn't from money issues, the fuckers drive a 2016 Dodge Ram 3/4. Its pure laziness and yes this is the sister in law we caught smoking pot on the last camping trip. I've had about all I can take of them. Wife doesn't want me saying anything as nothing will come of it or fix it but good God, I don't think I can keep my mouth shut much longer

I would absolutely step in!

 

[dukeboy440]

I would absolutely step in!

Yeah problem is getting wifey to back me. If not, things at home become unpleasant. Right now she wants to ride it out a bit since the dude her sister was having and affair with just died a couple weeks back.

 

[zkx14]

He told us that his parents (my in laws) , don't ever make supper or anything.

Something to think about.
The situation may or may not be as bad as it seems.
While there are certainly issues from other things you have told us... Don't assume that you are getting the full story from the kids. Maybe they are provided food, just not what they want. I'm sure the parents eat, so the kids are likely provided something to eat. just maybe not a 'cooked' meal. Maybe a frozen pizza vs. ordered...
When my son was little we had child svc show up. No big deal, just had to explain a situation and they realized there was no real problem. But I had to come home from work and give a statement cause somebody was minding our business.
My son told someone (school nurse I think) that I 'threw him over the gate' Without getting details they reported it. What actually happened? He frequently got into 'situations' at night while we slept. So, we put a child doorway 'gate' on his room. One night he had climbed over it and was sleeping on the floor in the hall. I got up to get ready for work, and to avoid stepping on him I picked him up and set him in his room over the gate. Don't know if it was from when he climbed out or him kicking a little when I move him, but he got a scratch -which someone at school saw and asked him about.