Getting back to normal after theft?

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Useless

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A few weeks back someone broke into my car while it was parked infront of the house one night and stole my stereo (not anything fancy) and the digital camera I got for Christmas that was in the center console. I had to miss a day of work and spend $175 to get the door window replaced.

A few nights later the next house down had the same thing happen to their car, after this I became incredibly paranoid, I started running to look out the window any time I heard a car go by and would stay up late at night sitting in our living room with the lights off watching and waiting for something to go down. I did see a car that was driving though real slow at night regularly and called the cops and saw them get chased thru the neighborhood but they got away.

After a week or two things got a little better and I started to mellow out about the whole thing, that was until Saturday before last. My girlfriend and I were sitting at home and around 11:15pm I heard an four wheeler go buy, I peeked out the window to see them making a u-turn at the road beside us (we live on a corner) then I heard it cut off and some guys start talking. I looked out our back window and saw two guys running thru our yard and hear them saying "be quiet, stay down, hurry up" we called the cops right away. After a minute I saw someone else walk into the yard and the two guys ran. I watched them the whole time, but my girlfriend didn't want me to go out. Another minute or two later eveyone left and a while after that the cops showed up.

I found out the next day that the last person who came in the yard was a guy down the street who was just out walking and knew these guys shouldn't have been there.

What gets me is after the first theft I put up two 150 watt lights (like shop lights) in the front and one in the back, so the house was well lit and it was clear we were home. I don't know what these guys were up to, we have a metal shed in the back, so they may have been trying to brake into it, who knows...it could've been the house they were after. I've since put a remote controlled camera up so I can see what's going on outside at night without much trouble. I've also got a gun I now keep beside the bed at night.

You have to be pretty damn bold to try and steal stuff when you're easily seen and you know the people are home, what I'm afraid of is next time are they going to try and break in the house?

Since this last round has gone on I've had a hard time getting to sleep at night and when I do I have nightmares about someone breaking in and wake up in cold sweats. When I don't get any sleep it's hard to get up for work in the morning and I have missed a few days, it hasn't been a big deal, the boss is understanding but that doesn't make things better. When I do work I'm afraid that I'll come home to a house that's been broken into. Not only has it affected my work but it's had an impact on our relationship too, my girlfriend and I are both tired of me being so paranoid and on edge all the time, I can't seem to get over it though. I used to like to always be out doing something away from home any time of day, lately I don't want to leave the house unattended or be out for very long, especially after dark. I've even had a few panic attacks lately, something I haven't had to deal with for a while.

We aren't rich people or have a lot, but what we do have is either irreplaceable or costs enough that it'd take us a heck of a long time to be able to afford to replace it, and god forbid anything ever happens to the Valiant, it'd take foreve to fix or would be junked.

We rent, so getting ADT or something like that isn't an option really, though we do plan on getting some renters insurance ASAP so if something is stolen it will be covered, but even that only goes so far toward getting back piece of mind.

So what can I do guys? Anyone else been in a similar situation? I just can't seem to get over it and get back to being me. This is a pretty nice neighborhood and I've lived in this place on an off for more than a decade, this is the first time anything has gone on, but I just can't quit worrying that something else is going to happen.


-Curt
 
Get a big dog. Start a community watch project. Petition for street lights. Try to contact the media, once this becomes an issue the cops will follow.

Nothing material is worth your life and in most states you can't kill/shoot at anybody who's stealing from you unless you want to go to prison. It sucks but it's the law. By the same token, I don't think the stupid kid who leans in my window for the buck 50 in change in my console should die either, although a good *** whipping should be in order. :)

Lastly, I think you should contact a doctor. I don't blame you for being pissed about this but it seems to have taken over your life. Your life is yours not the theives. Take it back.
 
Hey, just kidding. We had problems over here, too. We had not seen a cop around here for a couple of years. We made several phone calls to the police and the neighbors did as well. Now we see the police a couple times a day driving around the neighborhood. Things have improved a lot. Good Luck!
 
As Ramcharger said, nothing material is worth your life, pretty much anything can be replaced, your health can't. You can get sick as hell from stress, I swear to God I got cancer from all the stress I had in my life some years back, you do NOT want to go there believe me. :angry7: Relax, have a beer and reflect on all the good things in your life, never dwell on the bad. Since you rent you may want to move and give yourself a clean slate if the association with your house is too big a problem to get past.
 
Make a habbit of cleanning your gun in the garage with the door open. After my car got broken into in my drive way I would stay up until 2am in the livingroom with Frankenmutt and jup up and look out the window at every sound I heard. Also get a "Protected by Mossberg" sticker for your front window and a psychotic blue heeler.
 
Curt, I feel for you. Certain situations affect people differently. I've been there myself. Usually, all this of this stems from a sense of being violated. I mean ... who the hell wants to live in fear of being violated? Not me and I am sure - not you. There are precautions you can take to secure your property and safeguard yourself and loved ones but there is also a fine line where it may cross over into paranoia. Once you feel that you have reasonably done what you can to achieve this, see if the anxiety diminishes. It may take some time. If it doesn't, then perhaps a visit to healthcare specialist may be in order. Sometimes, you just need a little something to get you through a patch of troubled time and help you sleep/rest and get back to it. Good luck Curt.
 
I am sorry you have been dealing with that. I can understand the paranoia.
You have a gun by your bedside. Here is the deal with that. If you ever wake up in your house and know someone that is in the house (make sure you know your occupants and locations). Dont pull the gun unless you are gonig to use it. Alot of people are injured or killed by threatening to use a gun. Now this may start a big controversy, but if you feel you or your household occupants are in danger of life or limb then target your shot and make it happen. Dont miss, dont wound and for dang sure dont allow the assailant out of the dwelling you are in. This is the extreme measure, but you did mention a gun. If it comes down to this that is what you do. If you are not a good shot, especially under pressure....put the gun away. Remember missed shots can go through walls and you dont know where that bullet may go.

ok now that I laid that all out and I hope i did in a manner that doesnt create a stir.

I wish you best of luck, you have taken good steps in prevention. make sure to talk with the neighbors and make people aware. Awareness in a neighborhood is a key to low crime.

Take time thinking things through and you will get better. Personal property violation is definately something that effects ya.

-RPM
 
We've started the neighborhood watch program up around here again as it turns out there have quite a few people in the neighborhood have had stuff stolen, $1000 pressure washer, new 4-wheeler and various other stuff.

I've had stuff stolen before but nothing has ever bothered me like this, and to be honest I was doing ok, just pissed until the stuff went on when we were at home. My girlfriend wants to move but we can't really, we've only been in this place for a little over a month.

Sounds like 360scamp has been in the same boat before and I agree with the cleaning the gun with the garage door open idea. Honestly since I put the camera up the late night traffic on our road has gone down to nothing, so maybe a little intimidation goes a long way.

I guess you've just got to get some good insurance and hope for the best.

Anyone else have a car broken into or a burglary happen to them, what'd you do?
 
..........I wish you best of luck, you have taken good steps in prevention. make sure to talk with the neighbors and make people aware. Awareness in a neighborhood is a key to low crime.

Take time thinking things through and you will get better. Personal property violation is definately something that effects ya.

-RPM

Totally understand what you're saying about the gun thing, and yes I am a good shot.... lots of years of practice growing up on the farm.

Good comment about everyone being aware, I think that's been the biggest problem in this neighborhood. A lot of the people who live around here are elderly, have lived here forever and go to bed at 9pm. They don't leave any lights on outside either and when people know they can sneak thru unseen they're going to. There are a few of us around who have weird schedules and have started calling the police anytime something out of the ordinairy is going on. Also, we haven't had any regular police patrols for as long as I can remember since such little ever went on. I think maybe now that there has been some police presence around here and people have been keeping their eyes open, things will calm down.

It's still tough to get that feeling of safety back though, that's what I'm working on.
 
I had my storage unit broken into when my 53 Merc was in there. All they took was a pair of Mopar performance pollished aluminum valvecovers. But I put a cash bounty up for anyone that could get the crackheads duct taped to a chair in the woods in Olalla, WA.
 
Nothing material is worth your life and in most states you can't kill/shoot at anybody who's stealing from you unless you want to go to prison.

See...that's one of the GREAT things about living in TEXAS. IF IT'S DARK, you can shoot some ****** that is messin with you, your stuff, or your neighbors.


GAWD I love this country.....

The Country of Texas!!
 
See...that's one of the GREAT things about living in TEXAS. IF IT'S DARK, you can shoot some ****** that is messin with you, your stuff, or your neighbors.


GAWD I love this country.....

The Country of Texas!!


Only problem is he might have shot the neighbour following the "fuckers"
 
Like any good hunter, ya have to know your quarry. And I bet (especially with the new big lights) it would have been easy to tell the difference
 
In the state of Colorado you must be in fear for your life before you can take another, athough if there is a burglar in your home and they will not leave, you can shoot them dead. They call it the "Make My Day Law". I hope I never have to live with having to kill another human, but in defense of my family and I, it's a done deal.
 
I am the guy with one or two dogs that let me know there is someone
around my property doing wrong, Dogs can sense this and everyone I have owned new a bad person even if he just stopped by to say hello.
then I have a very protective set of ears on a small
maltese dog in the house.
I have had a theft at a home I have, that I don't live in, just 4 miles up the road that some one stole two motors from.
I reported it and talked to my neighbor and let him know what has happened.
I found my motor's at a scrap yard and got them here where I am living know.
I can see my shot gun from here and will use it.8)
My great dogs let me sleep and I put a sign up at the old home place that read's, If you feel lucky look in the house there is more in there for ya.
4lb fishing lines with treble hooks every where as soon as you get in tied to the nails in the walls. but I think the sign outside and that they know we have been hit will keep them away. All my good stuff is on the hill with me know.
Do your best to feel better knowing you have dun all you can and go on with your life, Its hard but have a cold one and live your life.
Dogs are you best defence for these people, and a sign that lets them know you are a gun owner and you will use it...
I went though this and went as far as sleeping in a tent hid outside to catch
them my self and call the young guns in to get them out of my side of the county.
Know its all behind me. I can't wait to see my hooks missing and the trip lines gone. I call that a LDR!! Long distance release.
Sleep well and put your mind on something ells your family needs your smiles.
 
Well, the theives stopped back by tonight, about an hour and a half ago. I heard a car pull up beside the house and looked out to see them looking around, after a minute or so they pulled around the front of my house (it's nice to be able to see this on camera now) and sat for a few minutes, reved the car a time or two (hopped up Prelude) then waited some more, at this time I called the police. Then one guy gets out and starts heading for our front door and my car which I now park in the yard, about 3 feet from my lights and the house. That was all I needed and I headed for the door with gun in hand. I swung open the front door right as he got to the car, he looked, turned and ran back to the car. To my suprise once in the car they just sat there for maybe a minute or so looking at me staring them down thru the front door, they then drove off real easy. By the time the cops got there they we're long gone. I'm getting tired of this BS guys.......
 
Did you get the plate # on camera? Maybe hide a camera in the bushes so it can get the plate #'s when someone stops or drives by real slow.

I would post it on youtube and send it to the local news, public access, or anyone that will air it and let others know what a pile of **** these guys are. Maybe someone knows the car.
 
Useless~ Man you are in a bad situation. I think it was a bad move letting them see you. Don't know why, just feels bad. Good thing you didn't shoot them. Did you get the plate number? More lights and motion sensors might help!

Wish we at FABO could help. Hopefully the law will....

My Aloha to you and your family.
 
Get a big dog. Start a community watch project. Petition for street lights. Try to contact the media, once this becomes an issue the cops will follow.

Nothing material is worth your life and in most states you can't kill/shoot at anybody who's stealing from you unless you want to go to prison. It sucks but it's the law. By the same token, I don't think the stupid kid who leans in my window for the buck 50 in change in my console should die either, although a good *** whipping should be in order. :)

Lastly, I think you should contact a doctor. I don't blame you for being pissed about this but it seems to have taken over your life. Your life is yours not the theives. Take it back.
in texas u can shoot a man on your doorstep. and recently in west virginia they passed a law. if someone is making you feel threatened on YOUR property u can take defensive action. if this was my house if it happened in texas ida shot the guy in the kneecap
 
Well, the theives stopped back by tonight, about an hour and a half ago. I heard a car pull up beside the house and looked out to see them looking around, after a minute or so they pulled around the front of my house (it's nice to be able to see this on camera now) and sat for a few minutes, reved the car a time or two (hopped up Prelude) then waited some more, at this time I called the police. Then one guy gets out and starts heading for our front door and my car which I now park in the yard, about 3 feet from my lights and the house. That was all I needed and I headed for the door with gun in hand. I swung open the front door right as he got to the car, he looked, turned and ran back to the car. To my suprise once in the car they just sat there for maybe a minute or so looking at me staring them down thru the front door, they then drove off real easy. By the time the cops got there they we're long gone. I'm getting tired of this BS guys.......

Wow, this is bad news if this truly is the theives. Be careful though, pointing a gun at someone is considered felony menacing in some states. They could have been a couple teeangers who had friends at that house before you rented it as you say you haven't even been there a month.

Personaly I would have waited until they busted in my front door and shot them dead. You'd know they were up to know good and they'd be shot from the front and indoors. Still hunting so to speak. Problem solved.

Think very carefully about the consequences. You will end up going to trial so there's lost wages. You will have to get a lawyer, not cheap. You will have to call a biological clean up team to clean up all the brain tissue and blood and guts and this stuff 'aint cheap. You will have to determine if you can live with taking another man's life and walking by the stain on your floor every day. You will never forget it. Your religious convictions will come into play too. Can you forgive yourself, will your friends and family have a problem with this. It will be on the news and you will be treated differently even from those who love you the most.

I see a lot of bluff and bluster in a lot of forums about killing in self-defense, but there are mental, physical, spiritual and social consequences when such an action is taken.

I am 100% in favor of defending my family and friends in self-defense on my property and elsewhere were it to be legal, but I've thought long and hard about the ramifications of my actions.
 
Useless, I'm with the theory that you are being confused
with a previous occupant of the home.
Try a new mailbox with your last name and address.
You can get small signs that say you have a security system
even if you don't.

You already have a camera system and lights, possibly
expanding your perimeter of survilence would help.
Add a security light that comes on at dusk or more motion
activated lights.


See if their is a reason for this harrassment you are dealing
with by talking to your nabiours and police.

Get in touch with a police detective in your department and
tell him the problem and give him the info you have.
Document all contacts and calls, reports they will show you
have made a reasonable attempt to resolve the problem
if you need to go to the next level.

Lastly I would save the show of force for protecting inside
your home, you wouldn't want to display your firearm then
have them show up with more or bigger stuff because you
showed a willness to esculated the situation.

I hope you can get this problem under control so you can
get you peace of mind back.
 
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