Girl wants to meet for drinks but... I don't really drink WHAT SHOULD I DO?

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wjaholic

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Alright, so a friend of mine talked me in to trying the "online dating" thing. Long story short I have been talking to this gearhead girl. We agreed to meet at one of the local car cruises Saturday night.

So she sends me a text today and asks what time I want to meet there. I said that I am meeting my Brothers and going to Monster Mopar Weekend Friday and Saturday that I was planning on getting to local car show around 6:00. So I am going to be spending all day Saturday running around at Monster Mopar

She said that they (her and her family) were going out on the river (yes she is a country girl) and won't get out until about 5:00. So she wanted to know if I could meet up later for drinks?

I am not big on drinking, I may have one or two brewskis with food but... I don't get drunk. Sorry, just not my style.

What do you guys think I should do? Think I should go for it or bail on her?
 
You don't HAVE to order alcoholic drinks at a bar, ya know.

But there IS an old sayin:

If you found your wife in a bar, you'll find your wife in a bar
 
67Dart273 said:
You don't HAVE to order alcoholic drinks at a bar, ya know.

But there IS an old sayin:

If you found your wife in a bar, you'll find your wife in a bar
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lol
 
Meet her and have 2 beers. Then stop drinking and be her designated driver and keep her safe. If she ends up being too easy she's not worth getting involved with. You want a girl that's a challenge!
 
Man you are lucky to meet a girl not only into cars, but INTO CARS!!!

I agree I dont like drinking nad I dont like it at all. I come from a family that has a history with drinking and it is a big problem.

I find it really hard to date anyone that doesnt drink, it is just not out there.

I say be up front with her and tell her that you don't drink except for maybe a couple with dinner and go with it at that.

I have found that woman like it when you are up front and if she likes to drink and get out of hand, well it is better to find out now before you really start to like her.

This is what I do and I have been out on a lot of dates from a few dating sites and local woman.

--> Me talking. "If you want to go out lets meet up. I also don't drink but if you want a drink you can pay for them yourself and I will buy dinner. If you don't drink dinner is still on me."

The reply I get all the time is. "Okay sounds good and I will meet you there."

I have not had a problem with anyone when I'm up front and tell them I don't drink and I don't like it and to me it is a turn off.

So in short be up front she will like that more then anything else.
 
Be yourself, if you like her otherwise, show up, and have a beer, then switch to water, or whatever. Or Leave the bar and grab a bite... Just see how it goes, it could be "grabbing drinks" just cause she didn't know what else to say to get together. She may be just like you... or she may be a drinker... But you wont know if you don't show up. Good Luck!

JOE
 
I agree with Joe. She may not have known what else to say. Like "Let's meet for BINGO!" That just doesn't cut it. Maybe all the men she has met so far has wanted to meet for drinks and she thinks that's par for the course. Go and just be you! If she is a drinker....walk away. Have fun man!
 
Nurse your beers.....oh yeah and by the words of the Late Ronnie James DIO (RIP)"Don't Fall In Love With A Country Girl"

Seriously careful with the country girls.

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go for the ride and have fun ....

the "go for a drink" term is pretty wide open... she likely thinks thats what all guys do and all theat they are interested in.


I myself rarely drink and met my gf off a dating website.... we went out for "drinks" but left after one round and went strolling around the city she lived in... we had fun

Still together and she treats my daughter like her own and i treat her son the same and we enjoy our kid adventures together.

At the moment she has no choice but to wait till my dart is complete before we go further ....
 
There's a good chance she said "meet for drinks" because that's the only suggestion she knows for a way to meet someone and initially spend some time together and assumes that most guys like to drink. Let her know you're not really into drinking and suggest another activity. If she wants to be drinking more than just getting to know you, and doing something else, she's the wrong girl anyway.
 
Having drinks is an easy thing to do. She may be turned on by someone that can handle there libations. Shows strength.
 
Bars serve water. Drinkin water is good for you plus it's in vouge these days.
 
Meet for drinks doesn't mean meet to get s%$t faced, it means meet someplace where we can sit relax and get to know one another.

Have a beer, one beer will loosen you up a little and show that you're not a prude and then switch to ice tea or diet coke. Order an appetizer, and relax and have a nice little conversation.

If she proceeds to order six kamikazes and gets hammered, you'll know that you need to look elsewhere.

Regards,

Joe Dokes
 
Meet her, get her drunk, and take advantage of her...


No, really. Meet her and if you don't want to drink alcohol, drink a pop or juice.

And Yes... I said pop, not soda...
 
krazykuda said:
Meet her, get her drunk, and take advantage of her...


No, really. Meet her and if you don't want to drink alcohol, drink a pop or juice.

And Yes... I said pop, not soda...
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You soda Popper
 
Dude let me get this straight. You have read enough into (lets meet for a drink) to have issues with it??? O/K one of two things is going on here. Either you already don't like her, or you are way too uptight for dating. Don't look so deeply into things. Do you even know what she looks like? Just go and check her out. If you like what you see ask her out again. If you don't just use this for practice, loosened her up a little and try to hit it. If she doesn't go for it you didn't loose anything. If she does you might not be so uptight after.
 
be yourself, dont drink unless you want to and moderation, don't be a fake...
 
I asked my wife out for a beer on a hot day when I first met her. She told me she doesn't like beer. I should have turned an ran but I didn't. She's not into cars either. Another strike! Sex, she's not into that either. 3rd strike. Aw what the heck. We've been married for 29 years and pretty happy. You never know where a meeting might lead. Just be yourself, drink a beer or a drink and follow up with water like many suggested. Nothing wrong with that. You two already have something in common that may not involve drinking. Go for it!
 
Meet for drinks doesn't mean meet to get s%$t faced, it means meet someplace where we can sit relax and get to know one another.
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i agree....

i wouldn't worry too much about it.. get whatever you want to drink.. water, soda...etc. meeting for a drink is a figure of speech anymore. plus if this is th efirst time your meeting in person, meeting for drinks is a good way for her to meet you and be in a public place. go meet her man..
 
wjaholic said:
Alright, so a friend of mine talked me in to trying the "online dating" thing. Long story short I have been talking to this gearhead girl. We agreed to meet at one of the local car cruises Saturday night.

So she sends me a text today and asks what time I want to meet there. I said that I am meeting my Brothers and going to Monster Mopar Weekend Friday and Saturday that I was planning on getting to local car show around 6:00. So I am going to be spending all day Saturday running around at Monster Mopar

She said that they (her and her family) were going out on the river (yes she is a country girl) and won't get out until about 5:00. So she wanted to know if I could meet up later for drinks?

I am not big on drinking, I may have one or two brewskis with food but... I don't get drunk. Sorry, just not my style.

What do you guys think I should do? Think I should go for it or bail on her?
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she said grab and drink she didn't ask you to meet and get drunk have coffee thats a drink stop the worry who knows she my like the idea you don't drink
 
My guess,she is testing your social skills to see if you are compatible.If she did not choose a spot,that is telling you to take the inititave.Think of a place where you can deal with this.Local steakhouses /resteraunts usually have a low key bar that serves food.This gives you room and food,but with the intamacy needed for a good impression.
 
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